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Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by tomaszs »

I think your application is awesome. Also, that some people here in comments are offensive and don't understand really what being an introvert is about.

Your application can help not only introverts, but also people who are isolated, depressed, who struggle to regain social connections after last months.

Thank you for that. You put a lot of effort in the app and it works great. It is one of the best ideas and implementations I have seen in five years.

Congrats again! It is far beyond my imagination how positive impact your project can have for millions of people!

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#82

Post by binkHN »

tomaszs wrote: post #81

I think your application is awesome. Also, that some people here in comments are offensive and don't understand really what being an introvert is about. Your application can help not only introverts, but also people who are isolated, depressed, who struggle to regain social connections after last months. Thank you for that. You put a lot of effort in the app and it works great. It is one of the best ideas and impleme…

Wonderful words of encouragement! Thank you! I realize some people might see this differently, but, at the end of the day, I did what works best for me and felt others could benefit as well.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#83

Post by spicybright »

fastball wrote: post #58
snet0 wrote: post #53

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I came to this thread earlier and thought I'd taken crazy pills, so I'd check back later. Not a single non-positive comment. People who use this or think this is a good thing have fundamentally misunderstood social interaction. Your girlfriend doesn't want the signal that you care, she wants you to actually care, and keeping in contact is an expression of caring. If you need to forge something this foundational, I'm…

I think the part you're missing is that this is supposed to be followed up by actual conversations and interactions. There are a great many friends where Life Happens™ and although I genuinely care about them, I haven't contacted them in months / years (and vice versa) because I'm not generally the type to initiate small-talk. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy catching up with friends and going over the little things i…

This app won't last long enough to remind you to message year old dormant relationships, so if that's important one should find something else.

I also don't see how an automated message helps you keep in touch though. It seems like people with a lot of this anxiety will just fiddle with the settings exactly like they fiddle typing out drafts they never send.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#84

Post by barbazoo »

bdcp wrote: post #15

Neat. But where in the world do you live that you only need SMS? I'd give it a go if it works with WhatsApp

Same here. I'd be more interested in the reminder aspect of it without integration with any specific chat app.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#85

Post by trutannus »

fastball wrote: post #75
brushfoot wrote: post #68

Yuck. If interacting with me is such a chore that someone has to automate it, I'd rather not hear from them. People don't want to be your duties. They want to be your pleasures. This changes messages from "I felt like talking to you" to "my scheduled trigger fired; please start a conversation so I can check you off my checklist." If I found out someone were using this to communicate with me, I'd frankly cut them out…

I feel like you're conflating the friction of starting a conversation with the friction of continuing one, which can be very different things.

Most of the negative views on this app appear to fundamentally misunderstand how highly introverted people socialize. I know several highly introverted people. Having something automatically start a conversation for them which they can then engage in themselves would be very helpful. Especially for people who have social anxiety. My take was never that this app was going to socialize for you, but rather would initiate conversations for you which you could then finish yourself. There's nothing wrong with doing that...

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#86

Post by sodality2 »

tolbish wrote: post #29
dennisy wrote: post #22

I am sorry but I really think this is a place where we just don’t need “an app for that”. This of course if just my view, but if someone uses this to call me the value of that will be super low.

Stay in touch with those that mean the most to you...by automating your interactions with them with AI! This is straight out of Silicon Valley.

>automating your interactions with them with AI

It does not do this- it either notifies you to talk to them if you haven't in a while, or it automatically sends a single message to start a conversation.

Note that I don't necessarily agree with this. I simply have a mental list of friends who I currently am keeping in touch with and every once in a while check up on the ones I haven't spoken to in a few days.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#88

Post by impreciouschild »

I think the consequences of being introverted, asocial, hesitant, distracted etc are part of regular interaction. Just because we can be connected with 10k people doesn't mean we should be. We also don't currently have the capacity for broadband bidrectional intimacy. The way parasocial relationships have bloomed is owed to infinite friend lists.

Also, people gravitate towards what is meaningful for them. I think that some people find it meaningful to feel that they're disconnected. I think that loss and disconnection is a part of life, and while I admire efforts to connect, we have limits. I think it's important for those (and this includes myself) who are asocial to acknowledge this aspect of themselves and accept the consequences of their persona.

Last, I think that scripted or automated interactions inherently devalue interactions. A huge part of having relationships lies in the effort to connect. This is why "Welcome to Costco, I love you" is a joke. It also neatly defines the flawed scope of this app. Because of that, I declare that this is a CRM app, not a real life relationship app.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#90

Post by brutal_chaos_ »

ShaneMcGowan wrote: post #87

I can't decided if automated "love you" messages is dystopian af or cute

Intent is the distinguishing factor, IMHO. If I'm using this because I really do wish to reach out more, I see no harm. It's like riding a bike to get somewhere, it helps you get where you want to be, just a little faster. If apps start to doing this on their own, because AI, then we've got a problem...
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