There's an important distinction to be made between true victims of crime or abuse, and those people who imagine themselves into the fake victim delusion and attach their identity to that. The psychological motivations of the latter are you get to blame everybody else and you don't have to take responsibility for anything that goes wrong in your life. It's a pretty toxic and disempowering delusion but it's also very compelling and addictive. people will struggle mightily against that which threatens to divorce them from their chosen identity as a victim.
I'm not saying there's no overlap between the two categories but it's an important distinction nonetheless.
Another way of talking about it is most people have been victimized by some trauma or another but how they respond to that, whether they see themselves as a victim and adopt that mindset, whether they see themselves as survivor, a thriver, whether they remake the meaning of that trauma and the response to it into some meaning that's personal for them and that is useful for them, is ultimately within the power of that individual. Some people go through stages some people choose for that trauma to define a large part of how they see themselves.
Life has suffering and trauma and I think it's important for a person to make some ways they can personally deal with that. At the same time I think life is so much more than suffering and trauma and it's important to keep that in mind as well.
Ultimately what you make of life, what you make it mean, it is up to you. I don't want to say it's not easy, or it's not hard, because everyone's different. but one thing I personally found useful is in dealing with the, as you mentioned, condition neural responses of traumatic memories is: where I live you can obtain the compound inderol (propranolol) over the counter and if you do self hypnotic regression when you go back and you know experience that memory again but you do it under the influence of inderol what happens is that the emotional intensity of those memories as you reactivate them becomes lessened. This does at least two things one is that the next time you remember them they're not as painful. The second is that by lessening the emotional intensity you're able to face an experience the emotions, and the associated events themselves, perhaps more fully and perhaps more objectively. I think it helps give you more perspective which is helpful.
While I found that effective I actually feel other strategies for emotional processing were more effective for me, strategies that, different to the first one, involved directly feeling facing and processing the thoughts and emotions of myself and other participants in those memories.
So whatever you do is your responsibility and I'm not telling you what to do, I'm just sharing some personal experience. Still, it's possible and understandable though that you may take what I'm saying at some sort of advice even though I don't intend it like, so even I don't want to say this because I know it's your responsibility what you choose to do, I think the way our society works in order for me to protect myself I better say the following: if you're thinking of trying what I told you I tried then I think you should talk with your doctor first about what I told you. While this technique is similar to the currently experimented MDMA regression therapies, there's also plenty of other ways to do emotional processing, but that may be one method you might find assists with some of the neurological aspects of it.