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Live in this world, but be not of this world. If you feel like a foreigner in this world, then that is a good sign. This is not ultimately your true home.
Somehow people around me always think the opposite. They're telling me I'm their best friend or at least that they value my attendance.
Overall, I'm okay with this. When I have to move or leave a group, I usually don't miss what I've left. I have the impression my life gets better when it changes.
But sometimes I think if my life would be better if I was more invested in belonging.
Some really nice photos in the article.
I never felt at home anywhere and I never felt to be part of a group. Somehow people around me always think the opposite. They're telling me I'm their best friend or at least that they value my attendance. Overall, I'm okay with this. When I have to move or leave a group, I usually don't miss what I've left. I have the impression my life gets better when it changes. But sometimes I think if my life would be better if…
Live in this world, but be not of this world. If you feel like a foreigner in this world, then that is a good sign. This is not ultimately your true home.
You mean it was a mistake for our distant ancestors to grow feet and walk the earth and that we should return to the deep from whence we came?
I think your experience as an outsider is really going to depend on how you socialize, how much you do it, with whom, and other specific aspects of your situation. Such as which specific businesses you frequent. Some specific people will treat you more warmly than others. Some neighborhoods or neighbors will have more culture in common and with yours. That's the experience that I've had living in a few different part…
> I think your experience as an outsider is really going to depend on how you socialize ... I'd disagree. Sometimes it's about who you are, not about what you do. In some societies you can blend in easily (like San Francisco), in some -- there's no chance, no matter what you do.
Still think most of the other things I said apply if you include all of the context rather than just what you quoted.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
You mean it was a mistake for our distant ancestors to grow feet and walk the earth and that we should return to the deep from whence we came?
No, parent poster is evidently a dualist and believes our true home is spiritual and not material.
Somewhat related: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome Although impostor syndrome is usually talked about in the context of the workplace, not being a 'foreigner' in another city.
People also say joining some club helps. I did kickboxing for year, there isn't much talking as it turns out... Anyway, I was really homesick the whole time, I still am. In Russia, we don't celebrate Christmas that much, the New Year is a major holiday. That time of the year is the hardest: no familiar festive music, the street decorations are off.
I kind of accepted all that, since I decided to pursue professional and scientific opportunity instead of comfort. I still wonder if I make the right choices from time to time. I think it's natural to do that though.
I have always loved Japan. I visited once, and made plans to move there. I lived in the heart of Tokyo for three years. I made a lot of friends, but being a white American, I came to grasps that I would always be a Gaijin, and that I would never fit in, no mater how well I spoke Japanese or adopted to their customs. I left Japan to focus on my future somewhere back in America. 10 years later I booked a three week tri…
Similar story, I had a friend who was born in Korea, came to the USA as a child, and was deported back to Korea at age forty. He felt like an outsider there, and four years later, committed suicide after a bout with depression.
Was he not able to hire a lawyer?