A great TED talk video about trying to spot kids lying https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6diqpGKOvic
How can you tell if someone is lying?
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Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#82Earlier quoted context omitted.
> go and collect some evidence then compare it to what the person is saying It's so much easier said than done though. Think about an example that might come up in daily life. Say, someone says they're busy/absent/whatever at X time, but then you spot them at that time, very clearly to the contrary. Did they lie to you? Sure looks that way. But it could also be that their schedule just changed. How can you possibly t…
> Say, someone says they're busy/absent/whatever at X time, but then you spot them at that time, very clearly to the contrary. Did they lie to you? Sure looks that way. But it could also be that their schedule just changed. Maybe they were just busy with the thing you spotted them doing? I’ve been “caught” a zillion times doing a thing by myself because I was booked on my own calendar and didn’t have time for anyone…
That's also possible. I said "very clearly to the contrary" precisely because I was not talking about that scenario.
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#83You have the right to be suspicious
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#84Earlier quoted context omitted.
Any time I read about spotting liars I thought "man, I don't know how other people do it, but I suck at detecting lies". I mostly think this because every time someone on TV insists they're innocent, I believe them, and then they turn out to be guilty.
Why do you choose to "believe" or not to "believe" an actor based off of what you know to be a performance?
I think that is the joke.
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#85Earlier quoted context omitted.
What if I told you that playing a low-stakes game and real life are not the same thing?
Most real life lies are also pretty low stakes. "Oh, I'd love to come to Aunt Mabel's party but I can't." "We should totally do lunch sometime."
Which is, of course, totally irrelevant. Nobody cares about detecting those lies. Where's the evidence that big lies are in any way related to little lies?
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#86Earlier quoted context omitted.
I have to question whether you're trying to prove GPs point, as this is hilariously incorrect. Unless you're using very unlikely values for easy and/or small.
I think you're right but I had to think about it and might not have noticed. How did you have that ready to go?
I have a basic understanding of statistics and a basic understanding of logical fallacies, and I deal with this kind of sounds-good-if-you-don't-think-too-hard "insights" all the time.
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#87I'm surprised that "micro-expressions" and the work of Dr. Paul Ekman weren't mentioned given how hyped it was several years ago (there was even a drama series called "Lie to Me" I believe). Has this all been debunked?
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#88Earlier quoted context omitted.
There is something of a meta-game there that doesn't exist in "real" cases like criminal investigations. Since everyone knows that they will be guilty some of the time, a reasonably strategy is to act guilty all of the time.
Except this comes in in real life all the time: "you don't need a lawyer here, you're not guilty..." - yes you do. You always need a lawyer. You always should plead the 5th if it applies. No, you should never be talking to law enforcement without a lawyer. No you should not let law enforcement "take a look around" without a warrant. Real life is full of things you absolutely should do which are sold up and down throu…
The best 47 minutes of legal advice you'll ever get: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-7o9xYp7eE
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#89I played a ton of Among Us in 2020, which is a game where you have to figure out which of your friends are lying. I quickly learned that going off "well they're acting pretty guilty" was an easy way to lose. A friend of mine would immediately jump to accuse me whenever I cast suspicion on them, even if they were innocent. Way better to rely on actual evidence and not hunches, even more so when it comes to giving some…
Also been playing a lot of Among Us with my friends.
We started out realizing how difficult lying really is. The early games definitely were characterized by just people not able to hide their lies (maybe we were not trained at it ;)).
But after some training it becomes easier to lie, and of course more difficult to spot.
We also sometimes play it with my kids and those from my buddies, but they have a hard time lying, basically partly admitting when they are accused.
Re: How can you tell if someone is lying?
#90Two thoughts: 1) If law enforcement ever has the time, they might want to play Maffia or Werewolf. Playing those games enough makes you realize how idiosyncratic lying can be. 2) I'm glad to know that my lecture on lying when I studied psychology basically had the same conclusions as this article.
> Playing those games enough makes you realize how idiosyncratic lying can be. In my view this is just one more error springing from the root error of turning "a jury of your peers" into "a jury of random strangers". One point of being judged by a jury of your peers is that they are familiar with the types of things you're likely to do. But another is that your peers are familiar with the ways in which you're likely…
People are practiced at telling lies that their peers believe. Random strangers are better at being skeptical because they are not empathetic about the excuses that are necessary to smooth out an explanation.