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Success depends on emotion management

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Re: Success depends on emotion management

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Post by itronitron »

bitwize wrote: post #9
inglor_cz wrote: post #7

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is something I think of fairly often. Telling young people that the world is ruled by a clique of powerful old white men who conspire to keep them oppressed must be crushing, especially if done incessantly. A cynical part of me says: see, sowing and cultivating frustration is precisely what some politicians need to reap power. They might not gain as much power if their voters had more self-esteem.

> Telling young people that the world is ruled by a clique of powerful old white men who conspire to keep them oppressed must be crushing, especially if done incessantly. If you're a young white man with a fighting chance of becoming one of the next generation of powerful old white men, I can understand where you might find that unnecessarily demoralizing. But for everybody else, it's the bitter truth they neverthele…

Reminds me of reading a story someone wrote about the epiphany they had when their therapist finally told them "the world does not wake up in the morning to fuck you"

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Post by ivanech »

I think this is useful advice for individuals. It's also important to know that even if everyone truly followed the advice, some people would lose out by no fault of their own (for instance, capitalist economies as they currently function do not sustain full employment without government intervention - it boils down to simple accounting identities). Macro outcomes often are determined by other forces than the sum of individual actions - just something to keep in mind when you see advice for individuals.

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Post by [deleted] »

zepto wrote: post #2

Please can people stop using absolutist epithets like this. Managing your attitude, emotions, and the stories you tell yourself will help a lot . If you do it badly, it will increase your chances of failure. Doing it well will not determine your success. That’s just magical thinking. It will predispose you for success if the other conditions are right for it , but nothing more.

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Post by bluefirebrand »

bitwize wrote: post #9
inglor_cz wrote: post #7

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is something I think of fairly often. Telling young people that the world is ruled by a clique of powerful old white men who conspire to keep them oppressed must be crushing, especially if done incessantly. A cynical part of me says: see, sowing and cultivating frustration is precisely what some politicians need to reap power. They might not gain as much power if their voters had more self-esteem.

> Telling young people that the world is ruled by a clique of powerful old white men who conspire to keep them oppressed must be crushing, especially if done incessantly. If you're a young white man with a fighting chance of becoming one of the next generation of powerful old white men, I can understand where you might find that unnecessarily demoralizing. But for everybody else, it's the bitter truth they neverthele…

> If you're a young white man with a fighting chance of becoming one of the next generation of powerful old white men, I can understand where you might find that unnecessarily demoralizing.

Is this really the only situation where you think this is demoralizing?

Not for women or minorities who are told they will never have a chance of making it anywhere because they're not white men? Personally I think that's pretty discouraging.

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Post by varispeed »

zepto wrote: post #2

Please can people stop using absolutist epithets like this. Managing your attitude, emotions, and the stories you tell yourself will help a lot . If you do it badly, it will increase your chances of failure. Doing it well will not determine your success. That’s just magical thinking. It will predispose you for success if the other conditions are right for it , but nothing more.

There are millions of people having such problems with motivation, attitude and experience lack of success, so these kind of blogs give them exactly what they want to hear. I wasted ton of time on such publications as I was under impression that if only I change my thinking then suddenly I'll get on right track. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. What helped me the most is realising that making mistakes is just part of a process and in order to succeed I need to be aware of them and just keep going. It's extremely hard, but it is what it is. If I stop then chance of failure is 100%.

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Post by fjeifisjf »

itronitron wrote: post #11
bitwize wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Telling young people that the world is ruled by a clique of powerful old white men who conspire to keep them oppressed must be crushing, especially if done incessantly. If you're a young white man with a fighting chance of becoming one of the next generation of powerful old white men, I can understand where you might find that unnecessarily demoralizing. But for everybody else, it's the bitter truth they neverthele…

Reminds me of reading a story someone wrote about the epiphany they had when their therapist finally told them "the world does not wake up in the morning to fuck you "

Many of live in a country with a long history of laws written explicitly for that purpose.
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