Well, except that you do have that choice in most things. You can buy a used car without a rear-view camera, or keep your older car - and many people do. If you want a cheap smartphone, you can get one - I recently had a Nokia 1 (cost me 24 euros!) as an experiment, and it worked fine. If you're content with a TV from 2001, you can get one for free off Craigslist.
The reason I like the car as an example is because it is a quality upgrade and also a lower cost. A vehicle with more than twice the lifespan translates directly into cash in your pocket. You save cash on a regular basis by not needing to purchase a quart of oil a week, 11 hours of mechanic time (while the car is still new!), more expensive tires, more spark plugs, more coolant, etc.
I get your point that quality upgrades are _occasionally_ mandatory, but the majority are not. If you want to save money by skipping the improvements (get a TV, flashlight, keyboard etc from 2001, or a more spartan smartphone) - go ahead, plenty of people do, and they save money for it. But if you want the latest tech, and a palace on wheels, and international travel, and organic food, and a fancy university on your resume, well, those things cost money.
Fun fact - community college enrollment has dropped year over year for about a decade now (today it stands at almost half of its peak enrollment.) There are plenty of budget smartphones, but the most popular phone in the world by far is the non-SE current-year iPhone, costing $800 to $1600 depending on configuration and the place you buy it in. A safety razor is cheap and effective (I use one) but Gilette sells millions of copies of expensive razors. The American middle class, in particular, wants to consume at a very high level, increasing every year, and it will not be satisfied with less. Interestingly, this consumption has shaped the political debate on the American left. Student loan forgiveness, which as planned today would be a colossal handout to the upper middle class, is wildly popular. Money for the millions of Americans living in true poverty is discussed nowhere, while left circles are furious that couples making 160k won't get any extra thousands with the latest stimulus bill.