I’m reminded of an axiom, which I will paraphrase: Everything is about sex. Except sex, which is about power.
I've always thought this phrase is a bit silly. It completely erases the existence of asexual people and their goals and ambitions.
'Sexual favours were the norm in music industry'
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#53Also HN: Sleeping your way to the top? THE HORROR.
I know quite a few people who did the latter, they don't seem to regret it at all.
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#54I’m reminded of an axiom, which I will paraphrase: Everything is about sex. Except sex, which is about power.
I've always thought this phrase is a bit silly. It completely erases the existence of asexual people and their goals and ambitions.
As an asexual person, not only are we not respected whatsoever here, but in my experienced, also personally attacked.
That your comment about erasure is getting this many down votes is unfortunately absolutely common for HN, and I'm incredibly disappointed in that.
Before people jump in who might not be asexual to try to defend this - it's such a problem I have actually shared emails with an admin who actually seem genuinely concerned about the problem. Just the truth.
I'm not sure why HN has it in for asexuals, but God damn guys, can't you ease up on us?
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#55It makes perfect sense. Music industry is a economics of superstars. https://www.jstor.org/stable/1803469 Very few stars get huge profits and after that it's long slim tail. Talent or high work ethic is not enough for success, "getting discovered" aka someone likes you and invests the initial money and effort is another factor. If personal effort is not enough and the artist has nothing else, selling your ass for an…
Thousands of employees devote already 1/3 of their life doing a work they despise just so they can avoid starving. Getting literally fucked to save 40 years of bad work doesn't sound too bad.
With Weinstein or hypothetical influential Valley figure, the choice might be between literally or metaphorically being fucked.
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#56what interests me is: how do people maintain their integrity in such a foul environment? I mean if you can't look yourself in the mirror then how do you keep on creating anything?
Institutions of power are masters of controlling people. It's almost scientific.
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#57Earlier quoted context omitted.
> if Jeff Besos would come to you and say: I invest into your startup $100M if I can fuck you into the ass tree times, very high percentage of HN crowd would immediately say yes. What's the name for this kind of arguments? Also, why specifically Bezos? Why not the billionaire next door? Also, why only the HN crowd? Wouldn't a lot of people too? Do you have a beef with the HN crowd or Bezos?
I perceive your parent comment to be straightforward and not sinister in the least. Why not Bezos (the billionaire who most easily comes to mind), why not HN (the website we're on )? Seriously, what's with the weird angry insinuating questions.
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#58It makes perfect sense. Music industry is a economics of superstars. https://www.jstor.org/stable/1803469 Very few stars get huge profits and after that it's long slim tail. Talent or high work ethic is not enough for success, "getting discovered" aka someone likes you and invests the initial money and effort is another factor. If personal effort is not enough and the artist has nothing else, selling your ass for an…
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#59HN: Legalize prostitution, it is normal work. Also HN: Sleeping your way to the top? THE HORROR. I know quite a few people who did the latter, they don't seem to regret it at all.
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#60Earlier quoted context omitted.
An important topic here is that shame is also a construct, and it is a collective construct. Certain things are shameful in one culture, not in another. This isn’t to say that we don’t have a gut feeling when something feels wrong. We have an inner sense of boundaries which eg. can be damaged by trauma and deeply affects our ability to connect and such. But when it comes to adult relationships there is a wide spectru…
Exactly. Insisting on how shameful and/ or traumatic some experiences must feel is, deep down, incredibly puritanic.