Preface: Something I've noticed about jerks/assholes: they're convinced that they're surrounded by jerks and/or assholes. Almost none of them are jerks for no reason. They're almost always jerks in response to some slight (either imagined, or blown way out of proportion). A good sign that you might be a jerk is that you see jerks all around you. Most people are basically all right. If you (1) run into conflicts with…
You've created a situation where nobody can refute your premise that "most people are basically all right" without outing himself as part of the cause according to the conclusion derived from that premise. Impressive :P
I refuse to tolerate assholes
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Re: I refuse to tolerate assholes
#92But in cases like this I follow the maxim: "Qui tacet consentire videtur."
If you are silent and let this person behave badly then all others will see that this behaviour is in the realms of acceptableness to you and the group. For me, it is no different than allowing a bully to threaten a small kid in a school. We might have to tolerate this to have the most efficient workplace, but I prefer to optimize for justice.
(I admit, in places where I steadfastly attempt to stick to this against the wills of the group, I am a jerk.)
Re: I refuse to tolerate assholes
#93> These people behave in a way that would not be tolerated in real life. I’ve worked with a few of these jerks in real life, and when they’ve been unable to restrain their behavior I’ve asked for them to be fired, and I’ve quit. Just because you couldn't tolerate them doesn't mean they aren't tolerated. When you asked for them to be fired (instead of asking the manager to talk to them about their behavior), were they…
I was thinking of two specific instances (luckily this sort of crap is rare and it's only happened to me those two times). In the first instance, the person in question was my direct boss and was responsible for reviewing my code. He'd routinely call me an idiot, a retard, etc., and during meetings he'd often say things like "no, we can't give that to Jacob - he'll just fuck it up." Now, in his defense I was a pretty…
http://www.techrepublic.com/article/hostile-work-environment...