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My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by _zamorano_ »

minusthebrandon wrote: post #5
echelon wrote: post #3

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem. Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit. It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.

My wife and I both work full-time and we still stick to my daughter's iPad restrictions: only an hour a day, no Instagram or TikTok or YouTube at all, and she only gets it after homework and chores and other things are done. We never take it anywhere. It's important that parents set AND KEEP boundaries. My daughter now knows not to expect to be able to Snapchat her friends or anyone else because she's never been able…

Yeah, it's doable and congratulations for achieving.

But anyway, he is right. For most parents is an uphill battle against tech and social media they're bound to lose due to mostly exhaustion.

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by jjk166 »

echelon wrote: post #3
KungFuJohnny wrote: post #2

Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".

That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem. Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit. It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.

You clearly didn't read the article.

Phones certainly can be a problem, but the problem here has nothing to do with the phone.

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by brlewis »

KungFuJohnny wrote: post #2

Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".

What emotional chord was struck with you that drove you to use absolutes like "completely", "nothing to do with", and "100%" when the primary bad parenting the author acknowledges is buying the daughter an iPhone too early?

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by plutonorm »

okareaman wrote: post #8

Little girls grow up into tweens obsessed with pop stars and friends and then into teens who rebel to find their own way. No amount of sheltering can stop it.

And what hideous world it would be if we could. Who wants little clones? Narcissists who want to live through their children.

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by jjk166 »

brlewis wrote: post #13
KungFuJohnny wrote: post #2

Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".

What emotional chord was struck with you that drove you to use absolutes like "completely", "nothing to do with", and "100%" when the primary bad parenting the author acknowledges is buying the daughter an iPhone too early?

Not OP, but buying an iphone too early was definitely not the problem here.

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by echelon »

jjk166 wrote: post #12
echelon wrote: post #3

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem. Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit. It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.

You clearly didn't read the article. Phones certainly can be a problem, but the problem here has nothing to do with the phone.

I did read the article and saw the author blaming themselves and calling themselves bad parents.

It's not all their fault. They're fighting an asymmetric war. Millions of parents are.

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by justforyou »

echelon wrote: post #3
KungFuJohnny wrote: post #2

Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".

That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem. Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit. It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.

>> That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem.

You clearly feel that statement is false but don't provide any support for your strange point of view.

Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone

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Post by londons_explore »

minusthebrandon wrote: post #5
echelon wrote: post #3

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem. Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit. It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.

My wife and I both work full-time and we still stick to my daughter's iPad restrictions: only an hour a day, no Instagram or TikTok or YouTube at all, and she only gets it after homework and chores and other things are done. We never take it anywhere. It's important that parents set AND KEEP boundaries. My daughter now knows not to expect to be able to Snapchat her friends or anyone else because she's never been able…

Lack of ability to snapchat friends might not seem important... But communication is key to nearly everything in life, and not being part of those snapchat rumours, disputes and controversies now will probably mean your daughter doesn't get as good at the skills to interact with her peers in 20 years time.
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