My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
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Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#2Title is completely misleading.
The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting.
The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#3Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".
That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem.
Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit.
It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#4Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".
Parents are mortals, and modern apps are specifically designed to be addictive. It's the parent's fault, sure, but it is also the fault of the unethical practices of social media. Also, when you're talking about older children and teens, there's really a limit to how much you can actually control them.
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#5Title is completely misleading. The problem has nothing to do with an iPhone. It has 100% to do with bad parenting. The author even acknowledges this, but I guess blaming the iPhone gets more clicks than "Poor parenting harms child".
That's a bit like saying addictive drugs themselves aren't a problem. Technology is designed to trick humans into engaging with it. They use us for profit. It's asymmetric warfare. One or two parents, with jobs and responsibilities, against kids with peer pressure and billion dollar industries hawking them on, claws in their back and brain.
My wife and I both work full-time and we still stick to my daughter's iPad restrictions: only an hour a day, no Instagram or TikTok or YouTube at all, and she only gets it after homework and chores and other things are done. We never take it anywhere. It's important that parents set AND KEEP boundaries.
My daughter now knows not to expect to be able to Snapchat her friends or anyone else because she's never been able to. When she mentions that her friends all have it, we remind her that our house is not their house and we have our rules in place for a reason, which we are always willing to explain.
While I agree that screens and TV ARE very addicting, that doesn't mean that parents are powerless or that the majority of the problems brought up in this article are not the fault of the parents.
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#6It’s not clear to me how they’ve decided their child is no longer “a creative genius”. It sounds like she’s just creating things via the phone now, and so the content isn’t literally sitting on the floor in the living room.
Whether it’s desirable for their child to be making digital content and publishing it is another question entirely, but the title premise never seems to be addressed directly. The article is a long-winded way to say ~“we keep making up arbitrary rules for the phone, and then we realize they’re arbitrary so we change them, but we never actually sit down and pick some sane and long-lived rules”.
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#7Looks like correlation, not causation.
Our precocious angels have been transforming into sullen monsters at the onset of adolescence since the beginning of time. Do we really think they would have stayed precocious angels forever, if only they had never discovered comic books or rock'n'roll or TV or video games or whatever the current teenage vice happens to be?
Sure, there is good evidence that smartphones are more addictive than a lot of other pastimes and devices, but the fact that your daughter turned into a teenager isn't that.
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#8Little girls grow up into tweens obsessed with pop stars and friends and then into teens who rebel to find their own way. No amount of sheltering can stop it.
Re: My daughter was a creative genius, and then we bought her an iPhone
#9Legos also harm creativity.
Perfection also harms creativity.
In fact there was a economic theorist who claimed that by introducing limitations in a system you also introduce entrepreneurship and innovation.
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