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Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by delusional »

Subsentient wrote: post #246

I was miserable before it was cool. Before the pandemic, I had a development job in the neighboring city. I'd take a 2 hour commute each way, and when I got home, I'd immediately collapse, sleep, wake up, and head right back to work. I didn't check my phone, my voicemail, my email, or call anyone. Just sleep. I rarely ate. I listened to a lot of death metal during that time. The pandemic hit, and I lost my job, then…

I couldn't imagine living your life man. You must be a really strong person. I hope you turn it around.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by pjg »

princevegeta89 wrote: post #117

I lost my father recently and this has been the toughest period in my life. I grew up in India in a middle-class family and my father always went through unimaginable hardships just so that he can buy us chocolates and pay our tuition. He was still young at 65 and there was so much that I wanted to see and share with him. Realizing that this is not ever going to happen itself kills me from the inside. I'm doing okay…

I lost my father some back too, though he lived longer, I can relate. Hit me up, my email is in my profile, would love to connect

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by delusional »

Jaruzel wrote: post #278

I'm reminded I'm depressed every time I take my anti-depressants. I know that I can't survive without them, having tried to come off them a few times, and going to a very dark place each time. The hardest step when living with depression is doing something about it. I wasted a decade of my life ignoring the signs. Don't be like me. If you think you are depressed, or even if you feel the world is just too hard to live…

What made you finally start doing something? What was the most obvious (in hindsight) sign you ignored?

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by notjes »

patcon wrote: post #128

Remote work is not for me. I'm struggling pretty hard. I miss people. I miss my sense of being good at the parts of work that involved people. I'm shit at working alone. I'm not productive like some are, and all my best assets were how I could support people around me and help them love what they were doing. All I have left of work are the parts that make me feel badly every day. Fuck this pandemic.

It is not the pandemic, it is the lockdowns.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by aspaviento »

swat535 wrote: post #186

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

> My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday

This is something I'll never understand. How can someone be with another person for so long and be able to end up things in such drastic manner (assuming there wasn't any toxicity in the relationship)? I mean, if you hadn't any idea that this could happen then did your partner never try to fix whatever problem you had before taking that decision?

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Post by znpy »

swat535 wrote: post #186

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

If I may suggest something...

Everybody hurts from time to time, hardships are part of life.

In situations like this it's important to focus on things you can control instead of being sad about things you can't control.

You might consider that now you life is again a blank canvas, and you can rebuild it. Everything's in discussion again, you're not encumbered by a relationship, the possibilities are endless!

Your destiny looked like set in stone, and now it's yours again for designing and implementing :)

Good luck!

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Post by riffraff »

hunterwerlla wrote: post #222
riffraff wrote: post #199

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am not trying to be dismissive, I understand missing people, but why can't you support people around you in a remote environment? You can pair with someone, or have informal chats, or plan some online game with your colleagues, have presentations in your team around work or non-work related things, setup a book club. It is harder and not as good as in-person interaction, but maybe you can get some good out of it. E…

I very much disagree with this. I agree with the top level comment, remote work is not for me. I understand that some people work well with remote work, but for some reason people who like remote work seem to not understand that some people prefer working in the office. I don't think that these kind of things replace an in person environment, and I'm really looking forward to when I can go back into the office.

but I did not disagree with the top level comment nor you, I completely agree that remote work is not for everyone, I only wanted to suggest some things that can help making it more bearable.

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Post by ffpip »

DangitBobby wrote: post #224
swat535 wrote: post #186

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

I find that Reddit sucks the joy out of my day. There's just something about that site.

Carefully select subreddits and make sure to only use old.reddit.com It doesn't have all that 'engagement' crap of the newer version
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