Nope. Somehow I got all the mania and none of the depression. Lucky draw.
Ask HN: Are you depressed?
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Get a dog or three.
I was going to recommend cats but then I guess they’d just make you more depressed with their condescension :)
No, haha :) See my sibling post. I've recently done some cat sitting for a neighbor who was away for a week and that was a huge boost to my mood.
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#113Well, let's see. My wife left me shortly before the pandemic started. I tried leaning on alleged friends for emotional support and they bailed on me. I don't have any family here in the US. The pandemic hit and I had to stop practicing my sport. My work output has been 10-20% of what it used to be even though I don't have kids to deal with, or any of the things that are driving folks crazy. It takes me around 2h to m…
Get a dog or three.
God please no. Heal first, then get a dog.
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#114I have a toddler and started a new job which makes me work crazy hours as I'm competing for a manager role with a bunch of asian kids which not only are very smart but can work 12-14 hours a day including weekends. I used to work for a very simple role which was a very stable product just pure maintenance and FR nothing crazy. Fight after fight with wife, it makes you wonder many things in life. But I try to continue…
That sounds.. bad. Do you see your hours going down if you ever hit the manager tier there? Or up?
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#115National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255
Keep in mind that calling this phone number literally just has police/ambulance sent to your location to 5150 you and put you in an involuntary 3 day psych hold.
You're just better off just voluntarily commiting yourself to a psych center than calling this number. Unfortunately reality, honestly.
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#116Earlier quoted context omitted.
Get a dog or three.
After cat sitting for a neighbor recently, I've been seriously considering adopting a pair of cats :)
Look for a rescue that will let you give it a try, as it were, for a month, and if it doesn't work out you can return the animal without issue (so you won't feel like you have to keep the cat if it isn't working out).
I did that back when I first was on my own and wanted a pet...and then found my allergies couldn't handle it. Was so thankful to be able to return her to a good home. Her personality changed completely, too (which wasn't a problem, except she went from being very standoffish, to becoming a complete cuddle bum, which exacerbated my allergies even more).
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#117I lost my father recently and this has been the toughest period in my life. I grew up in India in a middle-class family and my father always went through unimaginable hardships just so that he can buy us chocolates and pay our tuition.
He was still young at 65 and there was so much that I wanted to see and share with him. Realizing that this is not ever going to happen itself kills me from the inside.
I'm doing okay now compared to a few weeks ago but I keep having breakdowns and depressing episodes every now and then.
I now know that I need to continue to live and be strong and do things for him and raise a family and spread love just like he did. I don't think I'll ever go back to living like before but I feel happy with the idea that I'll be taking it from here, keeping him in my thoughts every day, doing things he would do, talking and acting like he would, pass on his genes and finally go away like he did one day.
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#118I had severe depression for a few years that became debilitating at the start of 2020 causing me to be unable to socialize or work or do anything but sleep. I was a terrible friend, parent, spouse, and employee. I tried multiple anti-depressants and therapists, but nothing helped. This august I found a psychiatrist that also did ketamine treatment and it was a miracle. Literally the day after my first treatment I was…
My doctor prescribes ketamine lozenges for depression. I fly in every six months for appointments. It's much cheaper than infusions and more convenient to take it at home. I can refer two doctors. Send me a message.
Thank you very much. I will reach out.
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Yea, that book is great. Another book, which includes those ideas and many others, is "The Resilience Factor" by Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte.
I want to jump on and suggest a CBT book - Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. It is the single biggest factor for helping me out of depression.
It looks like Dr. David Burns just released a new book called Feeling Great
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#120Yes. It’s hard to have empathy and not be. As we grow up and become aware of our world, there’s too much shit going on everywhere to truly be happy anymore even if my own life was perfect, and there’s little good to look forward to. At best we can hope for everything to keep shambling on and not collapse catastrophically. And the worst part? Even if everything did collapse it would be hard to feel sorry for us.. I da…
Yeah, this is honestly the most logical and rational conclusion I've come to myself.
Once you're fully aware of the state of things... shit's hard. I'm almost envious of clinical psychopaths in this age.