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Technology seeks to make individuals happy, but in doing so they're consumed by screens and feeds and become physically isolated from other people...
I lost my father recently and this has been the toughest period in my life. I grew up in India in a middle-class family and my father always went through unimaginable hardships just so that he can buy us chocolates and pay our tuition. He was still young at 65 and there was so much that I wanted to see and share with him. Realizing that this is not ever going to happen itself kills me from the inside. I'm doing okay…
This is supposed to be hard of course, but I'm very glad that you've handled it so well! >last paragraph I wish more whitemen were like you
Are you married , live with a SO or have another person or relative in your life? Have you perceived any income in the last 12 months? Are you able to legally work in the country you live in? Do you own a house or rent a place? Do you have any friends? If you answered yes to any of these questions you are already doing way better than me. I am not depressed. I know it does not work like that, but sometimes a little b…
What are some things you do have that you appreciate?
Fuck yes. I left a stable job because I have a plethora of health issues and wanted to put the little energy and productivity I have into studying, so I went to Uni. I've burned through my savings (6k or so) in 11 months now and I'm almost going broke as my sick leave wasn't approved any longer. My body literally don't cope with stress as my pituitary doesn't produce enough cortisol, testosterone or thyroxine. Now th…
I also suggest meditating on death and life. Ask yourself what's the worst thing that could happen. Usually it's not death, which means you can survive whatever the worst thing is. Then you can ask yourself what good things do you have right now. If you're warm, safe, and have food, you've covered all the base requirements! Can you hear, see? Then you can also listen to music and look at nature/art. Even when things are falling apart, we usually still have pretty amazing lives.
I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down.
My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it.
I have been hardly able to keep it together from the summer until now. I have no one to rely on for support.
Meanwhile all the politics and election stress has had an impact on everyone including me.
I managed to find a job but I'm pretty sure I'm suffering from depression. I spend most of my time mindlessly browsing HN or Reddit, eating whatever I find and sleeping late.
It has been an extremely stressful and emotionally exhausting time.
Getting laid off a couple weeks ago from my frontend/ux job of 6 years, and the job hunt since has been a bummer. But the positive is, I no longer have to work for a boss who underpaid, overworked, and did their best to make me feel worthless nearly every day these last 6 years :)
Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
To be blunt, it sounds like you’ve been tossed into a blender, and I can’t think of anyone in my life who could have gone through all of what you just described and not feel exhausted so please keep that in mind. It sounds like a lot.
I don’t have any advice to give except, if you are able, find and speak to a professional therapist. I thought I was above that sort of thing until my own mental health got so bad it was basically one of my only options.
One thing I wish someone had told me in my mental health journey - If you don’t connect with the first (or second, or third) therapist you meet with, fire them and look for a new one. You won’t offend the first (or second, or third) therapist because they have the same goal you do, which is to get you into a better place. It took me three tries to make the right connection with someone I spent about six months working with and it has made a big improvement in my well being.
Sending positive vibes!