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The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by DamnYuppie »

koolba wrote: post #490
irrational wrote: post #480

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

Do you blame the outside world for molding them as such or is this an example of reaping what you’ve sown?

I have seen family's give all the right guidance and opportunities and children still end up a mess. I have seen horrible families do everything wrong and seen children become quite successful.

Environment plays a part but self determination plays an even larger one. One of my current favorite sayings is "you come into this world looking like your daddy, you leave this world looking like your decisions."

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by nickff »

watwut wrote: post #391
nickff wrote: post #385

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think the parent is arguing that those numbers are (only slowly) increasing because: 1) They are skewed by a few 'elite' metro areas (which are best avoided by those without very high-paying jobs). 2) The houses are nicer and have more 'features', which cost money. And that if you remove the high COL areas, and control for the amenities, you will find costs are flat or decreasing.

But people can not buy theoretical smaller cheaper house with no AC if that one is not on sale.

Maybe people don't want those houses; maybe people are happy to move somewhere less prestigious to get the house they want.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by non-entity »

irrational wrote: post #513
koolba wrote: post #490

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Do you blame the outside world for molding them as such or is this an example of reaping what you’ve sown?

Well, they definitely didn't learn it from me or my wife. We both work all the time and barely take time to stop and rest. When they were growing up we would have them work with us on house projects, in the garden, at the food bank, etc. Apparently our work ethic didn't get picked up.

> We both work all the time and barely take time to stop and rest

Speaking of bad habits...

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by irrational »

SrslyJosh wrote: post #487
irrational wrote: post #480

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

> At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits. Wow, maybe have a little empathy. The world is on fire and the future is bleak.

I live in Oregon where the world is literally on fire, but I certainly don't feel like the future is bleak.

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Post by irrational »

formerly_proven wrote: post #483
irrational wrote: post #480

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

Are they both NEET or is them being unemployed temporary/covid-related? FWIW there is obviously a big difference between people being employed and living under one roof versus having a bunch of NEETs in the basement.

What is NEET?

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by tanilama »

munificent wrote: post #464

I really love the quote at the end: > I'm a dad who is happy to have his daughter and fiancé living with me. They pay the utilities and make me nice meals, and it makes it a lot less lonely here. ... I like the multi-generational thing. I know it won't last forever, but it makes life better for now. It's so easy to get into that cold statistical mindset about these large-scale trends, but it's good to remember that t…

I agree.

I don't like what the title tries to suggest that living with your parents is something wrong/abnormal?

Why is that? I understand for many it is not a choice, but it doesn't necessarily meaning people are suffering as a result.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by read_if_gay_ »

alextheparrot wrote: post #507
gruez wrote: post #479

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Question: How many americans have reached 18 since february? Isn't that mostly canceled out by all the americans reaching 30?

If the age-in population has a 75% incidence and the age-out population has a 25% incidence it won’t cancel out. The age-in population will be adding a lot more than the age-out will be subtracting.

But if it wasn't canceled out by something then this number would be rising forever, and that something ought to be people between 18 and 30 moving out, and if you suppose that most people planning to move out have postponed their plans due to COVID, then the situation doesn't look that grim.

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Post by froasty »

irrational wrote: post #480

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

Do you think you're enabling them in their bad habits?

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Post by d33 »

DamnYuppie wrote: post #514
chillwaves wrote: post #496

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Speaking from the younger generations perspective, this is a great way to destroy the relationship with your adult children. I'm sure it doesn't feel great for them to be dependent on you and face your scorn on a daily basis. I just hope the situation will never be reversed, for your sake.

If their actions were productive and healthy I would agree with you. Yet their behavior sounds unproductive and unlikely to lead to a quality life. As such scorn is warranted. Younger generations 40 and below have a tendency to believe that regardless of what they are doing no one can have a negative opinion on what they do, otherwise the other party is to be blamed and shamed. There is little to no self accountabili…

What's needed here is sympathy. They could as well be depressed, addicted or have any other problem they're trying to run away from. Or just a broken sleep cycle. Bottom line is, if you're bitter about it, you're unlikely to change anything and only get to accumulate resentment.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Post by irrational »

jeremysalwen wrote: post #511
irrational wrote: post #480

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

I'm guessing that they can sense the way you feel about them. It probably makes interacting with other people through social media more pleasant than interacting with you.

Your guess is wrong.
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