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The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

I'm guessing that they can sense the way you feel about them. It probably makes interacting with other people through social media more pleasant than interacting with you.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

#512

I moved back into my parents house after my lease expired, primarily to have regular social interaction again. > "While moving back home during the pandemic makes sense and is seen as socially acceptable or even smart, it also means you are living with people who still see you as your 18-year-old self." One of the biggest things I’ve noticed among millennials is how many parents fail to understand the emotional and m…

> how many parents fail to understand the emotional and mental situation of what their children are currently experiencing.

This is crucial to understanding:

- The immediate distress of young males. They have no chance of seducing externally if they don’t have moral support at home. Explains the billion of 9Gag posts about young people who fall addicted to gaming and joke about virginity and lack of self confidence, who joke about the thing they know they’ll fatally become. They’re stuck in a bad place in life.

- The rise in what all Democrat fans would call “Extreme right”, which they don’t understand is just people who we’ve abandoned, who count on no-one because no-one cares for them. Isolation and individualism goes hand in hand. I keep telling my leftist friends if they want solidarity to triumph, they can’t just focus on women-at-the-workplace, one day they’ll have to face the men-at-the-game-addiction-station question. Especially if they want a cohesive society.

Living with the parents isn’t the best way to get social interactions, unless it is a venue where they can be for _caring for others_. Because young men are especially deprived of places where they can care for someone, women being very independent nowadays, especially in their 20ies. And caring for someone is the blood of the soul.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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post #490

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

Do you blame the outside world for molding them as such or is this an example of reaping what you’ve sown?

Well, they definitely didn't learn it from me or my wife. We both work all the time and barely take time to stop and rest. When they were growing up we would have them work with us on house projects, in the garden, at the food bank, etc. Apparently our work ethic didn't get picked up.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

#514

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

Speaking from the younger generations perspective, this is a great way to destroy the relationship with your adult children. I'm sure it doesn't feel great for them to be dependent on you and face your scorn on a daily basis. I just hope the situation will never be reversed, for your sake.

If their actions were productive and healthy I would agree with you. Yet their behavior sounds unproductive and unlikely to lead to a quality life. As such scorn is warranted.

Younger generations 40 and below have a tendency to believe that regardless of what they are doing no one can have a negative opinion on what they do, otherwise the other party is to be blamed and shamed. There is little to no self accountability.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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I'm 26. Since the pandemic hit, my parents have been trying to convince me to move back in with them. I'm working remotely now, they say, so I don't have to live in the city, so I might as well live with them, right? I have to keep making different excuses. They don't seem to quite get the message that as much as I love them, I just don't want to live with them...

It really just depends on your relationships with your parents. I moved in with my parents when I started working remotely a few years ago, and lived with them for two years until I moved in with my fiance. Moving in with them was a fantastic decision.

That said, we immigrated to the US from a country where it is normal/expected to live with your parents until marriage or later. I don't think my fiance would have had a good time moving back in her with parents for 2 years like I did.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

The issue is not really that the government is bad, the problem is it has become a proxy for ultra rich to push their agenda. You can probably make it more efficient by limiting corporate sponsorship and making it more transparent. Millennials don't have many options or tools at their disposal to influence the direction we are heading.

Just gonna' leave this here: https://www.movetoamend.org/amendment

Please stop. You're posting the same link multiple times.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

#517

I'm my early 20s and in the UK. I earn more than my Dad who is in his 50s. He managed to get a house, have money left over for an expensive hobby, decent car, the odd holiday etc. I'm a 90th percentile earner. Will 95+ percentile earner in a few years time. Yet it feels like I am not as well off as I should be. I don't live in an expensive area either. Yet I need to save so much money to even have the opportunity to…

You are paying for your Dad's pension, and for the Government services consumed by millions of migrants.

Those same migrants increase labor supply (thus lowering the equilibrium price) and increase demand for land and real estate.

The end result is high taxes and high real estate cost. Of immense benefit to your dad (and other Baby Boomers) who receive risk-free pensions, and supercharged capital gains for their own assets.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

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post #490

My 21 and 23 year old daughters have moved back in with us. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching streaming media, then wake up mid afternoon to get on social media, eat dinner with us and then repeat. I can't wait till they leave. At least when they are living on their own I don't have to know about their bad habits.

Do you blame the outside world for molding them as such or is this an example of reaping what you’ve sown?

Prime example of telling on yourself. 21 is only 3 years post leaving the home.

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

#519

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I don't see it as a matter of blame, just the convergence of technology with human nature.

It can still be controlled via upbringing. I know many parents who have successfully kept their children away from early tech.

Early tech? They were born in the 90s. The only early tech they were exposed to was the VCR. Neither got their own phone until they were in their 20s (we told them they could have a phone when they could buy it themselves - it took until they were in their 20s for them to be able to buy their own).

Re: The majority of 18- to 29-year-olds in the US are now living with their parents

#520

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Speaking from the younger generations perspective, this is a great way to destroy the relationship with your adult children. I'm sure it doesn't feel great for them to be dependent on you and face your scorn on a daily basis. I just hope the situation will never be reversed, for your sake.

Scorn? I haven't said a word to them. How could I? I barely see them.

They are adults now. They can tell.
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