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No offense but why are you on social media at all lol. >I haven't set an alarm for work in years, can buy what I want without too much consideration, mostly work when I feel like it, and the work I do is often interesting. You are doing better than 99% of people who have ever lived!
I'm a professional blogger.
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Not sure if this will help, but I'll share my very recent story of how ageism looks from the other (youngish people) side, which contains some pitfalls to avoid. I'm 32, and the technical lead of a mid-sized research computing / ML team in quasi-academia. I'm the one who tells the boss whether a hire is technically competent, performing up to standard, is meshing well with the team, etc. So I don't make hire/fire dec…
Thanks for that. I'd say that's the type of stuff that insecure people do. As a manager (the one that made hire and fire decisions), I saw this type of behavior from folks across the age range. I'd gently suggest that, were you to look around, you'd see others behaving in similar manner; but, for whatever reason, you are noticing it more with this chap. I remember seeing that attractive folks (of any gender) tended t…
I agree, I'm well aware of the possibility and am trying to combat it the best I can. But @CarbyAu is right, no one trained me in how to deal with this kind of situation and it is just inherently difficult for everyone.
That said, from his side, if I were a member of a $GROUP that had certain negative stereotypes about it, I'd consider it wise for my own personal interests to try to avoid playing directly into the stereotype.
At 38, I started what became a very successful company; it ended up being publicly traded. I could just as easily have done the same thing at 48. Think, work hard, and know that you can recover from setbacks, in my opinion they are likely to be numerous.
One of my friends is very successful. He had to drop out of high school because it was too difficult for him, but he worked hard and learned as he worked and now runs his own large successful company. He's a great guy with a great family; from walking though his factory with him it's apparent that he likes and is liked by the people that work for him and with him. I wish I lived in a house as beautiful as his, but I don't begrudge him his success--he's an amazing guy that did it himself.
I sometimes wonder if it was just luck for me. Perhaps, but I didn't have some wonderful mentor or rich parents. I just decided that I would try different approaches until I built a happy life for myself.
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Actually that happened to me too, it turns out there's such a thing as being TOO confident I'm getting that vibe from you a little as well, where you're refusing to jump through the hoops that companies put in front of new hires (binary tree crap) I'd recommend you either knuckle under and play ball, or even better: Get into consulting / make a SaaS business like the Expat Software guy
Nah. It really is freeing to not have to do that. I sincerely want to help people that help people. The rat race is just too exhausting for me. I didn't realize how exhausting, until I had a couple of years of working on my own to see the difference. I'll probably never get paid a dime for my work, ever again, and the thought brings me great joy.
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The hour at the gym idea is just a function of poor time accounting. To get an hour at the gym you need a minimum hour and a half probably 1:45 when you account for getting dressed parking, driving and showering. That’s true with all those things you wanted to do but didn’t realize that there is actually a hidden time sink that nearly doubles the duration. This is actually a big reason why people don’t accomplish eve…
I’ve really liked home workouts for that reason. Much more time efficient. I prepare my breakfast during the breaks between sets. It’s maybe not as effective as barbells, but I also hurt myself sometimes with those. My home routine hasn’t hurt me yet. Basic equipment: * Chinup bar above doorframe. I like the rogue jammer. You can still shut the door. * Dip bar, for dips and rows * Exercise bike, for sprints Other exe…
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Nah. It really is freeing to not have to do that. I sincerely want to help people that help people. The rat race is just too exhausting for me. I didn't realize how exhausting, until I had a couple of years of working on my own to see the difference. I'll probably never get paid a dime for my work, ever again, and the thought brings me great joy.
What do you do for income now?
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I’ve really liked home workouts for that reason. Much more time efficient. I prepare my breakfast during the breaks between sets. It’s maybe not as effective as barbells, but I also hurt myself sometimes with those. My home routine hasn’t hurt me yet. Basic equipment: * Chinup bar above doorframe. I like the rogue jammer. You can still shut the door. * Dip bar, for dips and rows * Exercise bike, for sprints Other exe…
I would suggest kettlebells to build and maintain connective tissue and add a bit of bulk. Otherwise I've found the same - I don't need a gym but I go mainly for the social aspect and heavier weights. And nifty massage devices.
What kind of connective tissues do they maintain?
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“I only want to do what I want to do,” is pretty self-limiting. Not only does it cut off any way for you to grow, it makes it hard for companies to hire you over programmers willing to do anything. And I don’t mean that in a bad way but a realistic way - companies hire and want to keep you on but know you’re not going to be interested in any of their projects so the time investment has been wasted.
Bingo. See "not looking for work," above. When I first left my job, I was insecure, and companies could have taken advantage of that. No more.
To the "Mike" that sent me that wonderful little note:
I replied, then realized that you had used a honeypot email as the address, so I'll post what I wrote here. It would have gone to your email, otherwise. I would like to mention that I stand behind every post I make, and every email I send. I deleted my last anonymous account many moons ago.
> You still sound insecure.
:)
Probably. It's not your problem, though. It's mine. I am constantly working on that.
I will say that it was pretty devastating to get assaulted for my age. It totally rocked my world. I'm definitely still recovering from that, and I am still quite angry about it.
Thanks (really) for taking the time to look at my HN page and sending this. I regularly get attacked by some pretty savage folks (comes from the NPO work I do), so your note doesn't bother me at all.
Heck, maybe we have a lot in common. You know where to reach me. I'm a pretty decent chap.
This is my personal email.
Stay safe.
I was incredibly driven about 7 years ago... I was a founder of a startup and had really lofty aspirations. I told my wife that it was very possible that we would be millionaires by the time we hit 40. Fast forward to today and that did not happen. The startup is no more, but mainly due to burnout. We made money and did well, but not well enough. I never made my millions, but did have a substantial aqui-hire opportun…
I like that. Thanks for sharing it. I'm 58. I spent over thirty years, writing and managing software projects that other people generally didn't use well (or mishandled while developing). It was frustrating, but they paid the bills, so there wasn't anything I could do about it. Since leaving my last job, I started to look at working, and immediately , and with extreme prejudice, slammed into the notorious ageism in t…
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Funny, I'm also 58. I have also hit the ageism wall (although I'm currently at a place where I'm not the oldest, but then the software is also decades old). My plan is to build a bigger war chest while I can then go back full time to my first love, writing Free software. It's what used to be called "retirement" back when businesses were not run by 20-year-olds who plan to live forever.
> It's what used to be called "retirement" back when businesses were not run by 20-year-olds who plan to live forever. Isn't this also a bit ageist