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I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by RobertKerans »

rumanator wrote: post #527
WizardAustralis wrote: post #517

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Im in my mid 30s, I liked OK Boomer as a meme to let lose some emotion steam but then folks started to take it a little too seriously. To dismiss ideas outright on age alone is just stupid.

The idea that "ok boomer" is supposed to be dismissive of opinions and personal assertions based exclusively on age is a red herring. It makes as much sense as asserting that the "Karen" meme is dismissive of women. That was never the point, was it? The "ok boomer" meme is dismissive of ideas that are forced onto others based on absurd appeals to authority and in spite of their lack any substance or support or ration…

Sure, that's the original context. It's just that "ok boomer" is very often used to dismiss an older person [older than the person responding] asking someone to do anything (or giving advice in anything). Just as "Karen" is very often just a coded "bitch", used when an woman [older than the person responding] asks someone to do anything

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Post by mrw »

wwwhizz wrote: post #262
sjg007 wrote: post #195

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Yep. I deactivated Facebook and it took a week or so to get used to not having it. I feel a lot better without it that I will probably delete it. I do want to keep messenger so that’s one of the only reasons to keep it.

You don't need a Facebook-account in order to use Facebook Messenger.

True, but AFAIK, you can't keep your contacts (friends?) list when you delete the account and create a new one just on Messenger. An alternative is to deactivate the account [1] – this effectively removes your account from Facebook, but allows you to keep Messenger with all the contacts. (It probably also keeps other associated accounts, such as Instagram.) Although, it means that the moment you log into Facebook, your account comes back up, with all the relationships that were left off, tags, photos, etc.

[1]: https://www.facebook.com/help/214376678584711

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Post by nicbou »

tayo42 wrote: post #153
papito wrote: post #138

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People are now terrified of putting down a screen and being left alone with their own thoughts for more than 30 seconds. It's horrifying what's bouncing around up in that dome, and having to process it. But this is exactly what we did before. We got bored , we were wasting time, we were experimenting, and that's how great ideas came around.

Idk if it's just terrified, but I think we're addicted. This probably sounds ridiculous but I recently blocked some apps and sites on my phone and actually felt a little off for a day, like my sleep was weird. I think there was a slight withdrawal from the constant bombardment of stuff. It is helping kill my Facebook habit. I don't even really like the site, I just check it impulsively. It's weird. Reddit is another…

Looking at certain sites just becomes a muscle reflex. The second I'm bored, I feel the urge to look at my phone.

If you have a large enough rotation of websites, you never feel properly bored, so you can spend the entire day mindlessly browsing.

I think it's easy to tell whether you're browsing with intent or just killing time. It's just hard to close the lid and go do something else, especially if you've been doing it for so long that you forgot what "something else" is.

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Post by tonyedgecombe »

McSwag wrote: post #483
frogpelt wrote: post #470

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It's not just in tech. You hear responses from younger generations like "Ok Boomer" to their elders' opinions and it is so cringe-worthy. I don't think everything my parents taught me was perfect or even always correct but there's an irreplaceable amount of wisdom that comes from being alive twice as long.

Every time I hear that phrase I get the cold chill down my spine. It just feels so disrespectful and visceral. I’m in my 30s and was taught to have basic respect for others. People think my generation is entitled. Man our generation has another thing coming.

I don't like it but I can see some of the tensions that create it. The UK in particular seems to be going down a road where all the political decisions are being made for my generation. This won't work out well in the long term.

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Post by nicbou »

ip26 wrote: post #214
voidhorse wrote: post #13

Funny piece. It can be so easy to waste time when we have the internet. I think the most dangerous distractions are the ones that feel productive but don’t actually work toward your goals. For example, browsing hacker news. Such an activity is useful every now and then, but at least for myself I often scroll around only to realize later that it was a massive waste of time I could’ve spent working on something I care…

I realized recently after many years puttering around online that I frequently couldn't name anything I had just read over the last four hours. I haven't taken full control of myself back yet, but that thought was a strong wake-up call to me.

I have the opposite experience. I can recall discussions I've read months or years ago. In aggregate, it added a bit of depth to my perception of the world. They gave me a lot more vocabulary to process the world around me, as do good books.

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Post by TeMPOraL »

es7 wrote: post #401
TeMPOraL wrote: post #379

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Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I've never observed the "feeling sick" issue myself in periods of greater productivity, but that could be because I wasn't paying attention - I have "evening sickness" like you described roughly 2-4 times a month, and I end up just popping some paracetamol and feeling fine the next day. My blood work comes out OK on checkups, so I (and my doctors) guess it's likely some mild allergy…

Thank you for sharing, also. Until I read your original comment I sort of forgot about that sort of feeling since it's been months of normal daily grind. I wonder if anyone has done serious study into this type of performance. Some things I've found: - Waking up way earlier than usual works for about 1 day a week but then I'm more tired the next few days. - Hydration helps me. A big cup of water is more important tha…

A thought occurred to me today: could it be some kind of "sugar high"? If I'm getting my timeline right (this was 7 years ago), my hyper-productivity period happened about when I stopped being on a ketogenic (carb-minimizing) diet, and got back to eating high-carb food.

(During my time on keto, I didn't feel any significant energy loss below the baseline; but I wonder if reintroducing carbs after being deprived of them for a while could have created a temporary state of high energy?)

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Post by sqldba »

ChrisMarshallNY wrote: post #457
WrtCdEvrydy wrote: post #453

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Do you want to work together on a thing?

That depends. I’m only interested in doing stuff I want to do; the way I want to do it. Most of that stuff is now water under the bridge. I’m pretty hesitant to get into the industry, in its current state. Not much fun to be had. I’m already committed to working on a nonprofit, but we’ll see how that develops.

“I only want to do what I want to do,” is pretty self-limiting.

Not only does it cut off any way for you to grow, it makes it hard for companies to hire you over programmers willing to do anything. And I don’t mean that in a bad way but a realistic way - companies hire and want to keep you on but know you’re not going to be interested in any of their projects so the time investment has been wasted.

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Post by sqldba »

rumanator wrote: post #533
dasil003 wrote: post #528

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Actually being alive for longer is necessary to achieve wisdom. The problem you are pointing out is that it’s not sufficient.

Wisdom is not a function of age. It's not a present you open on your birthday. You may get wiser as years go by, but that doesn't mean you get to be wiser than those around you. There are plenty of people who are wiser and more knowledgeable and insightful than those who were born earlier. There are also plenty of people that in spite of their age they attained very little wisdom to show for. The "ok boomer" meme ori…

There’s another word for elder “wisdom” - superstition.

I question anything I’m told that doesn’t have proof attached, or singular experiences that are then extrapolated to cover an infinite future.

This always comes up in the same places: - Piss poor processes - Refusal to apply updates - Unverifiable decisions that exist for years

There’s a reason people say, “Ok boomer”.

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Post by sqldba »

war1025 wrote: post #335
bstar77 wrote: post #245

I was incredibly driven about 7 years ago... I was a founder of a startup and had really lofty aspirations. I told my wife that it was very possible that we would be millionaires by the time we hit 40. Fast forward to today and that did not happen. The startup is no more, but mainly due to burnout. We made money and did well, but not well enough. I never made my millions, but did have a substantial aqui-hire opportun…

My personal mantra at work is: One useful thing per day. If I manage to do one useful thing every day, it adds up to a lot of useful things over time. And that has proven to be enough. There's a sort of mediocre Johnny Cash song with the chorus "Even I might get to Heaven at a half a mile a day" That's basically how I try to live my life.

One useful thing per day is too much for me. Some days I can’t do anything. Some weeks are the same. Sometimes a month just goes by.

But in the scale of each year I’m super productive.

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