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I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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I generally agree with you (I have a six and a two year old), but the sleep deprivation when the kids are babies is extremely debilitating. At least that part definitely gets better.

It's not bad if they wake up right next to a breast. Before long, they can feed without waking the parents. The sleep deprivation will be terrible if you have to stand up (get heart going), flip on the lights, walk to the kitchen, fumble around to mix and microwave, walk to the baby, sit with the baby, walk back to the kitchen to clean up, and then head back to bed.

Just another way natural is better than synthetic.

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There's always more to lose than just what you own. There's who you are, there's relationships with family & friends, there's time, there's opportunities. All should be put on the scale & weighed against the risks.

> There's who you are Why would you lose who you are if you merely lost on a big bet (say, as an entrepreneur?) > there's relationships with family & friends I think you may be reading too much - you imply that a big bet will always mean sacrificing your friends and family, but i do not believe that to be the case, and in fact, friends and family are what helps you succeed, and including them in your bet is more like…

Why would you lose who you are if you merely lost on a big bet (say, as an entrepreneur?)

I think you may be reading too much - you imply that a big bet will always mean sacrificing your friends and family, but i do not believe that to be the case

Not even two months ago, https://www.cnn.com/2020/06/19/business/robinhood-suicide-al...

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Idk if it's just terrified, but I think we're addicted. This probably sounds ridiculous but I recently blocked some apps and sites on my phone and actually felt a little off for a day, like my sleep was weird. I think there was a slight withdrawal from the constant bombardment of stuff. It is helping kill my Facebook habit. I don't even really like the site, I just check it impulsively. It's weird. Reddit is another…

I specifically bought a Wi-Fi router, the Deco, to fight my addiction to Facebook, Twitter, Reddit. I probably should add this site too.

Not sure about how different the effectiveness is, but I use the Freedom app to block sites at schedules times on my desktop. I also have it on my phone, but it’s not as reliable on iPhone as it sometimes randomly deactivates.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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I like that. Thanks for sharing it. I'm 58. I spent over thirty years, writing and managing software projects that other people generally didn't use well (or mishandled while developing). It was frustrating, but they paid the bills, so there wasn't anything I could do about it. Since leaving my last job, I started to look at working, and immediately , and with extreme prejudice, slammed into the notorious ageism in t…

It's not just in tech. You hear responses from younger generations like "Ok Boomer" to their elders' opinions and it is so cringe-worthy. I don't think everything my parents taught me was perfect or even always correct but there's an irreplaceable amount of wisdom that comes from being alive twice as long.

> You hear responses from younger generations like "Ok Boomer" to their elders' opinions and it is so cringe-worthy.

The problem I see is that some elders feel that their personal opinions hold some kind of authoritative value over everyone else's in spite of their lack of substance or reasoning or connection with reality just because they were born further in the past.

In fact, the term "OK boomer" originated in elders systematically dismissing and criticizing other people's opinions based on their age. Thus it's quite ironic how that meme is criticized for the very same regrettablr pattern of behavior it criticizes.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/OK_boomer

Being alive for longer doesn't correlate with wisdom or knowledge or insightfulness, and if you have a hard time presenting and defending your point of view with rational arguments and facts that you feel compelled to resort to absurd appeals to authority to force your views onto the world then your attitude itself is the problem.

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I’m very nostalgic about the countless hours I frittered away on video games and the internet as an adolescent. Part of me thinks it made me the person I am today, who I am proud of. I recently joined a Counter Strike team with work and had some of the most fun times I can think of recently. I compare that with the time I put aside to learn 3D modelling, which was fun in its own way but required more self motivation…

> It made me question what society accepts as a valid way to spend spare time Well, to be brutally honest with you, it's one thing for you to be proud of yourself for playing video games, but why would anyone else see that as something pride-worthy? Typically, one takes justifiable pride for accomplishments that stand up to external scrutiny. That usually comes in the form of the accomplishment having an element of s…

I should clarify that I’m not proud of myself for playing video games, but that they were an important part of my life which no doubt shaped the person I am today. I do think people can be proud of playing video games though. The amount of hard work required to get into the top rank of competitive games such as Counter Strike is no different from any other sport. It’s a deep game with, I would argue, more to learn than most traditional sports.

Yes, I completely agree video games can be an unhealthy pursuit to the detriment of one’s life. If I’d put some of those hours I spent playing video games at uni into my course work I would’ve got better grades. I actually stopped playing games for the better part of my twenties to pursue more valid hobbies, such as photography, which I’m glad of. It made me a more interesting person. I came back to playing games a few years ago and realised I had given up something in my life that gave me so much joy. I think it’s hard to develop that deep connection to anything that we don’t do when we’re adolescents.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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With me it is not a question of what or why but how.

Conceptually, I know why I should do a task at hand and complete it. I also know the priorities which task is more important and which are less.

The part which pulls me down each time is how to convince my brain at the instant where it is telling me to watch that netflix trailer, mindless scroll fb, etc. instead of the work that was needed to be done. What is the framework/trick/technique that people use to not give at that weak moment?

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Every time I hear that phrase I get the cold chill down my spine. It just feels so disrespectful and visceral. I’m in my 30s and was taught to have basic respect for others. People think my generation is entitled. Man our generation has another thing coming.

Im in my mid 30s, I liked OK Boomer as a meme to let lose some emotion steam but then folks started to take it a little too seriously. To dismiss ideas outright on age alone is just stupid.

The idea that "ok boomer" is supposed to be dismissive of opinions and personal assertions based exclusively on age is a red herring.

It makes as much sense as asserting that the "Karen" meme is dismissive of women.

That was never the point, was it?

The "ok boomer" meme is dismissive of ideas that are forced onto others based on absurd appeals to authority and in spite of their lack any substance or support or rational basis. We're talking about the type of arguments that boil down to "shut up you little brat I know better than you just because."

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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It's not just in tech. You hear responses from younger generations like "Ok Boomer" to their elders' opinions and it is so cringe-worthy. I don't think everything my parents taught me was perfect or even always correct but there's an irreplaceable amount of wisdom that comes from being alive twice as long.

> You hear responses from younger generations like "Ok Boomer" to their elders' opinions and it is so cringe-worthy. The problem I see is that some elders feel that their personal opinions hold some kind of authoritative value over everyone else's in spite of their lack of substance or reasoning or connection with reality just because they were born further in the past. In fact, the term "OK boomer" originated in eld…

Actually being alive for longer is necessary to achieve wisdom. The problem you are pointing out is that it’s not sufficient.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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You just became the first GitHub profile I follow. Good luck bro! I’m still just 35 but I know I’ll face the same music in 20 years or less.

That’s the puzzling thing about the ageism. The folks practicing it are gonna get to be in this seat, before they know it. Hope that they are saving and investing, instead of splurging on Teslas and Mission District cribs.

I don't know how true that is. Of the ones we hear from/about, how many were acting discriminatory 25 years ago? I think we'd have heard from one or two at least, writing confessional blogs or tweetstorms or whatever, but I can't recall reading anything like that.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Sure, not so surprising that the high risk path is risky. What's surprising is the low risk path is so high reward.

Also, while it might be a lower risk path than the one you took, it certainly wasn't the lowest risk path available. The people who did really well had basically all their net worth tied up in one company's stock for many years. That level of concentration risk is extremely ill-advised no matter how promising the company might be. Sure, it works out great when GOOG goes up 200%, but it could have just as easily gone…

Bloomberg wants tools[1], not people who expect to work 40 hours a week and then go have a life. If you're willing to put in that kind of time and can get into a T14 law school[2], then doing biglaw for a few years in a contract or patent practice would open a lot of doors in a lot of places, plus make it very difficult to lose your job to offshoring.

The federal government has an annoying habit of preferring contractors for technical work, both because it's easier than directly paying people what they're worth and because it allows them to claim that the government is smaller than it actually is. Nonetheless, there are pockets of good technical jobs: CIA DS&T; NSA (RF, signals analysis, cryptanalysis); DHS (CISA). You won't be laid off, and there's lots of interesting and useful work; but even if you don't want to go contractor you're likely to run away from the HR departments that seem to view their job as preventing everyone else from doing theirs or the lack of external training opportunities, and at least in the intelligence community agencies are as headquarters-centric as Google and Facebook were ten years ago.

The risk of contracting can vary wildly. Some contracts have a new prime every five years; some go fifty years or more without a changeover. There are definitely contractors and contracts that are low risk, but in general the same rules apply as in SV: stability is being able to find another job, not a guarantee of continuing the same one.

[1]: In the MIT sense.

[2]: Spoiler: if you have a high enough GPA to convince Bloomberg that you'd be a good tool, you can get into a T14 law school.

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