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Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

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Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

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Lovely. A psychological study on how to manipulate people into supporting your social agenda. How about using, you know, reason? Treating them like adults? Give them pros and cons so they can make a rational decision?

Because we'd pull out the guillotine. We know exactly what happens with populist rationalist movements.

This might not be a morally bad thing, or an overall net negative in terms of utility; when politicians are bad enough, executing them really does have an affect on the upper class. But it's seditious, which is why folks don't want to talk about it; they don't want to be arrested nor first up against the wall when the revolution comes.

The amount of abuse that the upper class has committed upon the typical person is so large that there's no way to peacefully empower them anymore. 10% of the USA is impoverished, 30% cannot afford to own housing, 40% are financially insecure, and our Pareto 80/20 distribution of wealth has slid over the past two decades to nearly 90/10 [0]. Honestly, that last number doesn't stress it enough: Fewer than a thousand people have over half the wealth of the USA [1] and it gets worse with each recession.

Rationally, how would you correct this situation? The guillotine crowd has a solution, and the only cons are that it's illegal and that it can get out of control quite quickly. Meanwhile, the closest thing to a mainstream political solution comes from Bernie and the Democratic Socialists, and their reforms are widely unpopular among the political establishment.

[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_income_eq...

[1] https://www.politifact.com/factchecks/2011/mar/10/michael-mo...

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#52
post #43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What about health fads. Eating all meat is great for you. You'll feel better. They seem pretty successful. Church and religion, I would say mostly works on positivity. The argument would be these campaigns degrade to negativity. This certainly seems like it's playing out. Movement X goes more extreme. The internal members chose negativity over positivity. The stereotype of the Chinese is they will work towards a comm…

> Church and religion, I would say mostly works on positivity. Depends on the religion, I guess. I was raised Catholic, and a lot of it was about making people fell guilty about their sins and telling them if they keep doing bad things and don't repent, they'll spend an eternity in hell. Not exactly positive, IMO. Sure, there was always mention of how if you're a good, Christ-believing person, you'll get eternal rewa…

Yes, my association with the catholic church ist also mostly about guilt and fear. Scaring people to make them do the right thing.

In general the church was the dark symbol of fear. Have you ever been to the vatican? The same in big. Everything there is big, with the intention of making you small and fear them. At least that was my impression. Other people I was with had different experience

The catholic religion in itself is also a lot about loving and doing the right thing out of love and wanting to help for the sake of it. But yes, for me it mostly comes down to doing good things out of the fear of bad things happening to you.

"and saw four people standing there, gawking, taking pictures and video. He asked if anyone had called 911, and no one had."

And wow, I have to say I cannot imagine this happening here in germany. Except maybe for some very dark areas on a bad time of the day.

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#53
post #27

You want all people to do the right thing? Fine them if they don't. It's the only thing that's helped us get the virus under control. Greetings from Melbourne, Victoria, currently on stage 4 lockdown because enough people are selfish and don't care (unless threatened). EDIT: (Leaving my original text unmodified above) Agree that this sounds crass, and probably not very cultivated by HN's standards, but it's from the…

Yes, same goes for following traffic rules. You cannot just fix the traffic problems by patting people on the back for stopping at the red light. You need to fine people as much as possible; the higher the fines, the lower the cases of traffic rules violation.

Relevant 99PI https://99percentinvisible.org/episode/policing-the-open-roa... This episode talks about the history of people ignoring the road rules when cars came about.

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#54

Best way to get people to do the right thing: pay them to do it.

> Best way to get people to do the right thing: pay them to do it.

This is strictly not the best way because it both requires the extra cost of reinforcement to be administered, and tragically fails for anything we haven’t installed that mechanism for. It is practically impossible to install reinforcement points for every single agent and for every single thing they do.

Intrinsic motivation is simply much cheaper, making people want to do the right thing by their internalized codes, by reinforcing the frame in which they see themselves as moral people, reinforcing the benefits of reciprocity and gift economy.

This is why purity codes are much stronger in rural communities where most of the transactions are not through money but good moral standing. Granted, those codes themselves can easily get outdated, and distributed moral standing calculations basically limit the practical group size to a function of Dunbar number, but the alternative of codifying desired behavior in monetary or legal terms is just too blunt and easily gameable.

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

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I agree that framing issues in a way that allows people to avoid feeling like they have done something wrong is more effective. I also think most activists are aware of this. I also think that crafting positive, uplifting messages requires a certain level of societal support. Hard to know what one could buy to stop police brutality right now, for instance. I suspect people will come up with things. When I see a prote…

I agree that current protests are not "carefully crafted campaigns", but I think that that is largely due to the simplicity of the message: They want less police brutality and murders. The resulting system is not really set up to receive "sinners" or do any other quasi-religious things; it's merely a vehicle for conveying petitions for redress. I remember being a young atheist; I thought that people believed in Chris…

The whole thing reminds me of how the post WWII German society was in turmoil because of the student protests in the 60s. The new generations didn't feel silence and not guilting the old Nazis was the appropriate thing to do.

What they did instead was going into the places where Nazis worked ("storm the institutions") themselves and started moving into official positions there. Over time they just replaced them.

I am not sure how German society would look like today if nobody dared to guilt the Nazis about being Nazis after WWII, but one thing is true: guilt alone doesn't work at all. You have to provide alternatives, make them attractive, allow people to take a new role within the new that you are planning (and be it repenting sinner).

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#56
post #25

Lovely. A psychological study on how to manipulate people into supporting your social agenda. How about using, you know, reason? Treating them like adults? Give them pros and cons so they can make a rational decision?

I mean, why don't you do that, and other people will try other things and whoever wins in the marketplace of ideas wins.

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#57

If only dentist would follow this practice

My dentist is great. He only gives me actionable stuff and doesn't guilt me about anything.

When I had to go to an endodontist, he was also similarly on point. This was in SF. Honestly, I have a pretty high opinion of American dentists.

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#58
post #8

"The potential of positive self-directed emotions has largely not been embraced by activists. The worry could be that it might make those engaging in the cause appear self-satisfied or selfish. But these studies suggest that, instead of focusing on ‘doom and gloom’ messaging that zooms in on people’s shortcomings and risks alienating them, policymakers and strategists might find that positive messaging, speaking to p…

What I've noticed in Japan, is people who have cultivated a positive self image, who think of themselves as a good person, will be motivated to behave in a way consistent with that image, just the same as everywhere else. People who are motivated to to avoid external judgements, risks to pride or status, will just do the bad thing when no-one is looking, or in a way that sufficiently "launders" the connection between their actions and their social status. And the byproduct of all the external social pressure is a lot of psychological pain, self censorship, crippling risk aversion, and acceptance of bullying dominant personalities.

Re: Want people to do the right thing? Save them the guilt trip

#60
post #27

You want all people to do the right thing? Fine them if they don't. It's the only thing that's helped us get the virus under control. Greetings from Melbourne, Victoria, currently on stage 4 lockdown because enough people are selfish and don't care (unless threatened). EDIT: (Leaving my original text unmodified above) Agree that this sounds crass, and probably not very cultivated by HN's standards, but it's from the…

>Greetings from Melbourne, Victoria, currently on stage 4 lockdown because enough people are selfish and don't care (unless threatened).

It's because your governor adopted a stupid policy that doesn't account for human nature. How well has banning drugs and teen drinking worked to limit those? It failed completely. How could anybody in their right mind believe the same heavy-handed approach is optimal for dealing with a public health emergency? It's not the people's fault, it's the governor's fault for adopting a policy that's doomed to failure and them blaming other people when the inevitable happens.

It's like designing an organisation. If it's possible for one single human failure to bring down the whole thing, if it's possible for one guy to accidentally delete the prod database, the fault doesn't lie with the guy who fucked up, it lies with the person who designed the system.

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