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Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by yters »

OrangeBlaze wrote: post #91

I was once in a similar situation: I felt full but empty at the same time. I was very content with my life but I knew something was missing and I had no idea what it was. Some people have suggested to spend time ‘giving back’. But why? There is no real objective reason to be altruistic. It seemed to me that it was all meaningless. The very foundations of morals and ethics became weak. I hated this perspective and tri…

Yet there is a lot that seems not so great about religion and very human in the evil done in its name. I find it hard to devote myself to a 'god' if the teachings could well be made up by a person and just be used to control people. How do you make sure you have the truth and not a man made ideology?

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by azhu »

Struggle. No one likes it, but meaning comes from pain. The story that goes "iunno, I was kinda lost so I started volunteering because some guy on an internet forum said it was a good idea" isn't compelling. You need a compelling narrative to generate the meaning you're seeking, and that is only possible in hindsight.

Don't focus on you, focus on the world. Go heads down and focus on making life better for others. Lose yourself in that, and when you look up you will have become your answer.

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by hymnsfm »

Look at the spiritual dimension of your life. The spiritual realm goes far beyond this brief mortal existence.

Pray to God in the name of Jesus Christ. It will require faith at first. But if you have a real intent to know, and are willing to listen and make changes, you'll get the answers you need.

"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths." ~Prov. 3:5-6

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by em-bee »

yters wrote: post #131
OrangeBlaze wrote: post #91

I was once in a similar situation: I felt full but empty at the same time. I was very content with my life but I knew something was missing and I had no idea what it was. Some people have suggested to spend time ‘giving back’. But why? There is no real objective reason to be altruistic. It seemed to me that it was all meaningless. The very foundations of morals and ethics became weak. I hated this perspective and tri…

Yet there is a lot that seems not so great about religion and very human in the evil done in its name. I find it hard to devote myself to a 'god' if the teachings could well be made up by a person and just be used to control people. How do you make sure you have the truth and not a man made ideology?

keep searching and investigating independently. don't just follow someone else. evaluate everything that you see on whether it makes sense to you and, to the world. evaluate what the various religious communities are doing, how they put the words into action.

don't stop searching until it all makes sense to you.

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by adv0r »

_y5hn wrote: post #93
adv0r wrote: post #80

Earlier quoted context omitted.

ohhh would love to join philosophy groups... is it a thing?

I've been to such event, though wasn't a regular and it was more of an alternative gathering. That was before all the web services, but nowadays there's ie. meetup, and college/university is bound to have something too: https://www.meetup.com/topics/philosophy/ Meetup could be a good place to connect about lots of stuff. Don't be surprised if the thing finds you, but one need to be open to try new and unplanned exper…

following up on this: I signed up for a local meetup. in 8 hours I'll go to the first zoom socratic chat

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by adv0r »

cmroanirgo wrote: post #99
adv0r wrote: post #79

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Are you sure? I spent the last 30 years focusing on myself, on what I wanted to do, to learn, to get, to reach... Idk... >Start by digging into your own uneasiness. Where does it come from? What triggers it? You'll find some personal thing, most likely from childhood, tucked away in the recesses of your psyche that drives you. Meditation and self-honesty are key here. I somehow feel like my "uneasiness" are the real…

Absolutely sure. I'm an infinitely better person for it... Add have gone barely a step down the road. There's a big difference between going along with your drives and understanding their root cause. There's this freedom and peace that comes whenever you uncover the dirt about yourself, that honestly can't be found anywhere else. This road is not be for everyone, however. Your initial request for suggestions showed t…

You are also very good at reading between the lines!

> Would it not be better to be master of your own vehicle, rather than be 'driven'?

Very deep question. As I mentioned, I don't know the answer.

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