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Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by Johnjonjoan »

danesparza wrote: post #31
Johnjonjoan wrote: post #17

Read some Aldous Huxley and see if that changes you ;)

I can appreciate the fact that you reached out for advice -- thanks for that! I'm curious to know what parts of Aldous Huxley's work would present an inspiration for change here?

You are most welcome. Personally I found the genius and the goddess made the greatest change in my perspective. Obviously I can't say it will have the same effect on you; however I've found that many of his writings are very thought provoking so perhaps just pick a few at random :).

I wish you the very best and I'll leave you with a quote from the man himself:

"Every man who knows how to read has it in his power to magnify himself, to multiply the ways in which he exists, to make his life full, significant and interesting."

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by albertk92 »

mholt wrote: post #60
adv0r wrote: post #52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Where would you start?

Do you pray? If not, start there. It might take you out of your comfort zone a bit to approach a deity you do not know (or know well). As others have suggested, now's a good time to offer up your means to improve the world, and to be a blessing in others' lives. A living God can help you do that, and He'll help you to find Him. If you want some more guidance in spiritual development, missionaries can help. Edit: So,…

Getting involved with a church or religion could be a positive thing for you, but I would recommend not joining the one linked to in the parent comment. I grew up in that church, and it demands unreasonable amounts of time, money, and group loyalty. Its missionaries are unlikely to outline all of the church's expectations of its members up front. It's hard to be a half-way member, so you end up being either in or out. I've chosen out.

It can seem like a great community to join when you're in an emotionally vulnerable spot, but if you explained the whole package deal to someone who is in a good place emotionally, it wouldn't look very appealing.

If you end up looking for a religious or spiritual group, keep an eye out to make sure you don't join one that will take advantage of you. Being part of a community of people who can rely on each other is a great thing, but some groups go too far.

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by adv0r »

lemiffe wrote: post #41

"The Danger Of Seeking a Life Purpose" from Sorelle Amore is an interesting video that lightly touches on this subject. Whilst I do not agree with everything mentioned, I do have one word of advice: Find hobbies, find many hobbies, switch constantly, and you might just find one niche you love... and once you find something you love, you'll dig into it like the hacker you are, and then you'll dig deeper, and you'll dr…

> Find hobbies, find many hobbies, switch constantly, and you might just find one niche you love.

I think that if there is something that defines me, is that I change hobbies quickly, after a deep dive. That's basically how I got where I am. Should I keep doing what I always did then?

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by adv0r »

malux85 wrote: post #29

Help others. If you’re a programmer then automate your charitable work. How many people can you help this week? 50,000? Can you buy fertiliser for an entire city? Can you pull a ton of carbon out of the atmosphere? Can you speak for the defenceless, downtrodden, voiceless people who are suffering? Can you eliminate hunger for a whole village? Can you teach 10 kids to code and teach them to all teach 10? Start helping…

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Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by adv0r »

Baeocystin wrote: post #20

>This time I'd like to start really pouring my soul into something that can provide meaning to my life Meaning comes from within. If you're looking for outside sources, you've already lost. If you've achieved enough material success that you no longer have to worry about working to survive, excellent! Be grateful, for you have something 99.999% of the world will never have. Use the free time you have achieved to thin…

this resonate quite a lot with the state of things. Thanks.

Tomorrow morning I'll plan to spend some time in a library just pondering about it

Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?

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Post by _y5hn »

adv0r wrote: post #69
lxrbst wrote: post #4

Are you sure you actually implemented the life you wanted or what was expected from you? Sounds like you had a checklist/recipe for life and you went with it. The good thing is you have so many doors open now. Do whatever. You're young enough to pick up any hobby or career. Don't think about whether it's financially worth doing or if you're on some "mission" or "purpose". Don't think about whether it's safe or unpopu…

> Sounds like you had a checklist/recipe for life and you went with it. Yep, tried to follow a mix of passion and checklists. > Do whatever. love this. This is also the problem itself. I can do anything. But what will I miss out if I do x instead of y? > Learn an instrument, buy a motorcycle, make a painting, become a scuba instructor, run a marathon, try drugs, move to another country, sit at a park/cafe and talk wi…

Take those lists of yours and burn them. Find the files you rely on to plan, and rm the crap out of them.

Be here and now. Talk to people you normally wouldn't talk to. Do things without needing justifications. Be an absolute clown for a day, or just do something really crazy (ie. involuntarily funny) without justifying it to anybody. Notice what piques your curiosity and engagement, and pursue some whims of fancy. Notice variations of feelings and how they play with the rest of mind-body system and vica versa.

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