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Regarding [2] This is extremely bad, like Google+ forced-real-name-policies bad..! (For those who wonder: that and the Buzz incident made lots of people hate or at least distrust Google.) Why why why do companies do this? During the last 6 months I've stopped logging into Stack Overflow. It is a nice resource but for me it is read only for now because they messed up so hard - and refused to come up with a real apolog…
I think I missed the SO news. What happened there?
IIRC Monica asked if would be OK if she (or someone else?) wrote in a way that sidestepped the whole issue, for example by writing about "the user" instead of "he and/or she".
Again IIRC they leaked information to newspapers, misrepresented the case and issued one or more non-apologies before trying to pretend nothing had happened.