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Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by albedoa »

burgerzzz wrote: post #196
albedoa wrote: post #194

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> it's pretty fucked up that so many people just write off people because they hold radical political views. It's extremely reasonable actually.

I guess it's "extremely reasonable" as long as you're extremely comfortable living in a box, only accepting viewpoints that align with your own, and to hell with everyone, including your family who don't agree with YOU. Because when it comes down to it, it's not about them, it's about you.

We are talking about "radical views" here, not simply "viewpoints that don't align with our own". It's bizarre that you think those are the same.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by dgreensp »

And if your mom is toxic and/or abusive and you are not in contact, or you have no mom, or for some other reason you can’t or know better than to call your mom: Don’t call Mom!

Somebody needs to hear this today. :)

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by missingrib »

dgreensp wrote: post #202

And if your mom is toxic and/or abusive and you are not in contact, or you have no mom, or for some other reason you can’t or know better than to call your mom: Don’t call Mom! Somebody needs to hear this today. :)

Thank you.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by burgerzzz »

albedoa wrote: post #201
burgerzzz wrote: post #196

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I guess it's "extremely reasonable" as long as you're extremely comfortable living in a box, only accepting viewpoints that align with your own, and to hell with everyone, including your family who don't agree with YOU. Because when it comes down to it, it's not about them, it's about you.

We are talking about "radical views" here, not simply "viewpoints that don't align with our own". It's bizarre that you think those are the same.

If you use the most reductive reasoning possible, then sure, I guess it's bizarre.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by albedoa »

burgerzzz wrote: post #204
albedoa wrote: post #201

Earlier quoted context omitted.

We are talking about "radical views" here, not simply "viewpoints that don't align with our own". It's bizarre that you think those are the same.

If you use the most reductive reasoning possible, then sure, I guess it's bizarre.

Nobody is reducing your comments. That is what you wrote.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by perilunar »

RspecMAuthortah wrote: post #160

Anyone in different time zone that our parents are, how do you effectively deal with it? I have about 10hr time difference and whenever I have free time either they are sleeping or I have to stay till late hours at night. Not great.

10 hours is easy. My brother lives in Europe and calls our parents in Aus every week (9-11 hours difference depending on DST). Usually his evening/their morning, but the reverse works well also. Just message them and set a time in advance.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by jelliclesfarm »

I hate collective kumbayas like this. Moms, dads, pets, god, children...birthdays, wedding days, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day...these celebrations are crude and unnecessary. If it’s something or someone one treasures, one ought to keep such celebrations about that private.

Isn’t anything sacred anymore that it can’t be made into a hallmark card moment or be up on social media?

There are so many people out there..And everyone’s life circumstances are different. I find this..how you say..not socially classy and utterly clueless.

Keep it private. No one cares. Or rather..no one should care. That is true freedom.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by axiom92 »

jelliclesfarm wrote: post #207

I hate collective kumbayas like this. Moms, dads, pets, god, children...birthdays, wedding days, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day...these celebrations are crude and unnecessary. If it’s something or someone one treasures, one ought to keep such celebrations about that private. Isn’t anything sacred anymore that it can’t be made into a hallmark card moment or be up on social media? There are so many people out there..An…

>Keep it private. No one cares. Or rather..no one should care. That is true freedom.

This.

I dare say I find it offensive that the post is asking me to do something that might very well be irrelevant, hurtful, useless, and all in all detrimental to my mental well being. I don't know why people generalize things like this.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by mooneater »

movedx wrote: post #191
mooneater wrote: post #2

I was 22, that was the last mothers day my mother was alive for. Of course I didn't know at the time, but I didn't call. Im 44 now and its one of my biggest regrets. Dont be like me. Call her.

Are you OK? If you want to talk further I can be available via Discord, Teams, mobile, whatever...

Thank you, you are very kind.

Im doing pretty well and have supportive friends and family.

Are you a counsellor or generally like helping people through issues? I've always felt like I wanted to do that, though I'm not sure I have the right skills.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

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Post by mooneater »

tasuki wrote: post #177
mooneater wrote: post #2

I was 22, that was the last mothers day my mother was alive for. Of course I didn't know at the time, but I didn't call. Im 44 now and its one of my biggest regrets. Dont be like me. Call her.

Good advice, and please don't be too harsh on yourself for having forgotten to call. She would've forgiven you many times over.

You are right that she would forgive. Yet we can make it harder to forgive ourselves.

I will try to stay conscious of this. Thank you for your kind comment.

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