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Then you have a kid and realize just how much free time you actually had...
Hah, that actually works more than once, as in "Then you have a(nother) kid and realize just how much free time you actually had".
I was tricked into thinking I had “grit”
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A "thing" is just such a vague and general concept that is useless. If either your job or your relationships can be reduced to only mastering 1 thing I really envy you. If you say I am being unfair and of course it involves many sub-tasks , so why dont just choose to be good at life? So you can concentrate in just one thing and still have 2 other "things" to spare. Now, less snarky and more serious, in any activity o…
What you say is absolutely correct ;-) However, I still find it useful to think in these terms. For example, I'm working on a game in my spare time and streaming (most of it) on Twitch. But I'm also making cheese and doing a lot of research for it. I keep thinking of writing a book about cheesemaking because the information available to normal people is by and large pretty awful. So I think to myself, "Are you willin…
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yeah, it is physically impossible.... I gave you two disciplines: bulking up in the gym, or playing soccer... while bulking up, you gain both muscle and some fat, and your soccer performance will suffer as your weight will increase, and your larger biceps and pecs really wont help your soccer game much (there is a reason that pro soccer players don't look like body builders). Also playing lots of soccer will hurt you…
That's almost entirely broscience. Being at a slight deficit won't hurt your soccer performance. You're not a top tier professional that needs to optimize for every tiny thing. Even if you are, Ronaldo is shredded and is a top 5 footballer. And most footballers are naturally very lean, so what you're saying doesn't even make empirical sense. Should you expect to play the Champion's League finals while preparing to do…
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#104Earlier quoted context omitted.
Then you have a kid and realize just how much free time you actually had...
Hah, that actually works more than once, as in "Then you have a(nother) kid and realize just how much free time you actually had".
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#105It is not important to work hard, it is important to be happy. Stop glorifying the act of working, please.
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#106It is impossible to be really good at everything.... when I optimized for work, my fitness goals went through the window. When I optimized to get a project done, my reading (books) went down as well. When I optimized for fitness (working out and soccer), my work and side projects started progressing slower. It is very hard to work on your project at home, when you are in a intense bulking, or 'cutting' phase, and onc…
It should be noted that this does not apply to intimate relationships. They cannot be shelved and picked up again as you see fit. They require consistency.
I have made the mistake of putting relationships in maintenance mode, and it did not work so well.
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#107It is impossible to be really good at everything.... when I optimized for work, my fitness goals went through the window. When I optimized to get a project done, my reading (books) went down as well. When I optimized for fitness (working out and soccer), my work and side projects started progressing slower. It is very hard to work on your project at home, when you are in a intense bulking, or 'cutting' phase, and onc…
I never introduce fitness again until I settle into a new position. This is just optimal for me in terms of dealing with stress.
It’s kind of like refactoring code in a new codebase, takes awhile to settle in and figure out the new routine.
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Somehow I think Buffett would have ended up a parasite in any society. There's always been a niche for the Buffett type.
Why do you think he's a parasite? He seems to live a modest life, and work very hard to make the economy work more efficiently. He's giving almost all of his money to philanthropic causes, and seems to campaign for all the right causes. He maintains a pretty low profile for his level of success (he doesn't even support philanthropy through his own family foundation; he went with Gates, since he thought they'd do a be…
His current net worth is $70b, for your statement to be true he would have to give away trillions.
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#109I have learned the same thing about myself: I am (relatively) successful not because my grit allowed me to keep doing something which I disliked but were rewarded, but because the things I enjoy doing are things which are valued by our society. I realized this after reading the following Warren Buffet quote[1]: "I happen to have a talent for allocating capital. But my ability to use that talent is completely dependen…
...and that's why he also said on Monday: "If you took someone and asked them, without them knowing whether they'd be born boy or girl, black or white, with or without any relevant talent, or to rich or poor parents, and asked them when and where they'd like to be born. They'd answer, 'The US, in modern times'. There is no place on Earth, and no time in history, that a person can make the most of their talents, as to…
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#110When I worked for a pensions company they sat me next to the CEO. He was a pleasant man most of the time, who could sometimes show a touch of arrogance towards his PA. I saw him mostly work at a slide deck all week and reading a book called Grit. Later I noticed he put a few sentences from the book into his deck. "We don't go home when we are tired, we go home when we are done" stuck in my head. After a few years of…
Like a friend of mine who collapsed after, comparably, running a marathon when he had not fully recovered from the flu/covid-19 or something similar. He’s OK now though. He never bails out unless unconscious. He’s one of the most reliable persons I’ve ever known, and he has gotten where he wants to in life so it’s not necessarily bad.