Hacker News Board Hacker News, browsed like a classic message board
Live data from Hacker News

Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

ohmyperson.com

Post reply on HN
Print view View original

131–140 of 231 posts

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#131

Post by gumby »

m463 wrote: post #58
dinkleberg wrote: post #32

I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…

I vaguely recall computerized dating based on punched cards. I guess expectations have gone up.

That's funny because an early computer dating company was indeed called "great expectations". Back in the 80s and early 90s they had an office in the Landmark Complex in MV next to where Google is now.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#132

Post by 55555 »

mirimir wrote: post #121
saagarjha wrote: post #106

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You’re still bragging.

OK, maybe so. But it's by no means purely a brag. I mean, what. Divorce. And feeling used. Not fun. As I recall, one of them was about to leave her husband, but a grandmother had offered her $1K if she had a kid. Which I learned just after sex.

offered 1k to have a kid. lol. It took a while to find a funny part but this will do.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#133

Post by Guest0918231 »

sandoooo wrote: post #123
Guest0918231 wrote: post #117

Earlier quoted context omitted.

In that case people would swipe on just the attractive users and on every bio without reading them. A simple fix would be to only allow users to swipe on 20% of the photos and 20% of the bios.

I am going to defeat your system by swiping on the top 20% looks and bottom 20% bios. And everybody else will follow suit once they realize it's an effective strategy. And you'll have a race to bottom.

What's the bottom 20% of bios? "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"? Are you suggesting that attractive people have terrible bios? If so, you're probably right and it would be a decent strategy.

That being said, it seems silly to try and force people that only care about looks into caring about bios. Who are we to tell them how to select a partner? Maybe they would be most happy with an attractive partner that doesn't share any of their interests. If that's who they want to find, then instead of telling them they're wrong, we should help them do it.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#135

Post by DoreenMichele »

duelingjello wrote: post #54

I’ve thought about this a lot. I think it’s important that dating people match based on relative attractiveness, health, energy level, tidiness, age/maturity, mental attitude, goals and standard of living. Also, dating sites should facilitate meeting, not pen-pals or “virtual” phony “relationships.” Perhaps a more palatable way to approach this is to legitimately screen/curate each applicant and rate them honestly so…

Also, dating sites should facilitate meeting, not pen-pals or “virtual” phony “relationships.”

From what I gather, dating sites are dealing with the reality that women tend to want relationships before sex and men tend to want sex. Women also face various safety concerns when going out to meet people in person that they only know via internet.

If you want a meet-and-greet site, those are some of the issues that would need to be addressed to make it fly.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#137

Post by b0rsuk »

gamegoblin wrote: post #116
dinkleberg wrote: post #32

I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…

Potential solution: make photos and text bios disjoint. That is, imagine a tinder-like app where 50% of the things shown to you are photos and 50% are bios. But they are all mixed up so you don’t know whose photo matches to whose bio. You only “match” with someone if you swipe right on their photo and their bio.

Another compromise could be a micropayment to get a photo. All else is free.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#138

Post by IG_Semmelweiss »

dinkleberg wrote: post #43
LandR wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Depends if you are male or female? Female... nah, just a pic will do. Male... then yeah... full medical records including blood work, good pictures (probably want some cute animal in your pics too!), dating history - preferably with at a couple of good references! income statements, net worth, pictures of your house, job title, height, weight, body fat %, hobbies, shoe size, list of countries you've visited, professi…

I know you're mostly joking, but it's really not that bad. I think the problem is most of us guys don't have any sense of which photos are actually flattering of ourselves and how to write a description that actually shows some personality (without being weird). Also, the "swipe right on everyone" move most guys seem to have is a terrible idea, Tinder and co. tend to factor that into your ranking/visibility. Ask a fr…

"When the student is ready the master will appear"

The same can be applied to partners.

Work on yourself, and your desired mate will appear

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#140

Post by mirimir »

mirimir wrote: post #69
nikkwong wrote: post #59

> "References: He was really nice to me, and one of the nicest guys I've ever dated. We had some issues with his parents not liking me, that eventually caused us to break up. but otherwise I'm envious of the next person who gets to be with him!" The juxtaposition between dating and references.. doesn't work, at least to me. I can't imagine actually writing this about an ex. Especially, curious as to the circumstance…

That sounds pretty good to me. Funny story. Good references from one of my ex wives got me in bed with two of her friends. However, they didn't want me, just my sperm. But it was still fun.

The point that I wanted to make is that former lovers can indeed provide favorable recommendations.

Maybe I should have transformed it into a third person share.

Post reply on HN