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I was lonely. But also way too angry for a relationship. So yeah, it was bittersweet. Also, said ex wife was professionally quite awesome, so I think that sort of rubbed off on me.
You’re still bragging.
But it's by no means purely a brag.
I mean, what. Divorce. And feeling used. Not fun.
As I recall, one of them was about to leave her husband, but a grandmother had offered her $1K if she had a kid. Which I learned just after sex.
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> Also, dating sites should facilitate meeting, not pen-pals or “virtual” phony “relationships.” This. So much this. Above all else. Playing the whole game of an online back-and-forth "relationship" before the first meeting is annoying and exhausting. Honestly, it feels like a complete waste of time as well. There will be a yay/nay decision made by at least one party, within the first FIVE MINUTES of that first in-pe…
This kind of thing is why I feel like there's an untapped market in some kind of facilitated speed dating that does some kind of basic prescreening on mutual preferences (age range, want/don't want kids, general interests, etc) and sets up events when there's a sufficient 'pool' of people whose Venn diagrams all reasonably intersect.
Pay the fee, exchange 5 minutes with 24 assorted people of your same age. Next!
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Potential solution: make photos and text bios disjoint. That is, imagine a tinder-like app where 50% of the things shown to you are photos and 50% are bios. But they are all mixed up so you don’t know whose photo matches to whose bio. You only “match” with someone if you swipe right on their photo and their bio.
In that case people would swipe on just the attractive users and on every bio without reading them. A simple fix would be to only allow users to swipe on 20% of the photos and 20% of the bios.
And everybody else will follow suit once they realize it's an effective strategy. And you'll have a race to bottom.
Dating sites are female-driven, and females select primarily on looks, as has been shown on plenty-of-fish and tinder data analysis. So a dating sites without pictures would never work. I hope to be proven wrong, but I don't think so.
They select on looks because that's all they have on dating sites. People (especially women in mainstream society) mostly ignore looks when they have already had a real-life pleasant interaction; however, it is very challenging to replicate that online, since it's very hard to give incentives to be genuine.
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Beautiful women face substantial barriers to establishing a real relationship. Much of the world is inclined to treat them as nothing but an object. It's absolutely not all upside (to be beautiful) and it's a problem one cannot complain about. No one will have any sympathy whatsoever.
You know what I don't get? Why oh why is it so hard to find any authentic food from in ? They all seem to serve the same old boring 20 dishes. Last time I went it was so bad I didn't finish my plate. Yes I know there are starving children in Africa.
Yes, I know there are women who can't get a date at all because they are deemed too ugly ...
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You know what I don't get? Why oh why is it so hard to find any authentic food from in ? They all seem to serve the same old boring 20 dishes. Last time I went it was so bad I didn't finish my plate. Yes I know there are starving children in Africa.
I was raped at the age of twelve and told it was my fault for being "too beautiful to resist." As a consequence, I attempted suicide. Yes, I know there are women who can't get a date at all because they are deemed too ugly ...
Fine, you win, I am now fully in agreement that beautiful women have it really rough.
Mods pls don't hurt me.
I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…
> I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there are even those that get catfished, so it's always worth trying something else out. 100%, well put
Hey, isn't that just the all-swipe?
What’s the incentive for attractive people? Why would you voluntarily give up a competitive advantage in a highly competitive market? If you’re ugly like me this is great.
That you can select people that don't care about looks, which is generally a signal for someone who is more experienced, socially sophisticated and emotionally intelligent than average, and more likely to give you a pleasant experience. Also, in case the system is selective, then you know that the other person likes you for something other than looks, which is also a good indicator for a better experience, both in a…
That's a very optimistic outlook. The person you replied to said, "If you’re ugly like me this is great", and I think they're closer to the reality. I predict the site will be filled with mostly unattractive people that care about looks as much as everyone else.