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#62You know how trying to remake reddit without the censorship will get you a cesspit of people who got censored off of reddit for pretty good reasons? This is the dating version. I predict it'll consist almost solely of extremely unattractive people.
> You know how trying to remake reddit without the censorship
But reddit was "reddit without censorship" for a very long time before corporate interests, journalists and government decided to get involved.
"Reddit without censorship" was certainly not a cesspit and what made it popular in the first place. Free speech was what made reddit great and made it popular.
Also, "reddit with censorship" is just a different kind of cesspool. Just because it's the kind of cesspool you enjoy swimming in doesn't make it any less revolting.
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#63Earlier quoted context omitted.
You don't get it. These are not the same thing. The difference, as others point out, is tone. One is far more formal than the other, and conveys a sense of stepping on eggshells. If the only way to discuss a concept is to first put on a suit and tie and pay prostrating deference to all who demand it (and demand it they will), then nobody will discuss it very much. This is how you win a game of censor-thy-neighbour wi…
See my reply to sibling comment. I’m not advocating for political correctness, I’m certainly the exact opposite of that more often than not. But I also feel it’s entirely unnecessary to shame people of a particular appearance in this context, “ugly people” is sufficiently specific to get the same point across you’re trying to make with “uggos”. The fact you keep doubling down even after it was pointed out that you ar…
Well this has turned mostly into veiled threats and appeals to authority to carry out those veiled threats, so I agree there's not much left to say.
But let me quote you:
>A less male gender focused way of saying a “man-year”, a common term to imply the amount of effort, rather than an exact duration.
I think I was mistaken in my assumption of good faith.
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#64Hahaha this will never work for an obvious reason that isn't socially acceptable to state. As soon as looks get involved, it's over.
Huh.
I know that I'm probably unusual. I really haven't ever cared much about looks. I've mostly valued intelligence, good sense of humor, interest in sex, independence and (frankly) a credible career.
And in retrospect, among my former wives and lovers, it seems like the less conventionally attractive ones have aged the best.
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#65Good luck with that.
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#66Earlier quoted context omitted.
See my reply to sibling comment. I’m not advocating for political correctness, I’m certainly the exact opposite of that more often than not. But I also feel it’s entirely unnecessary to shame people of a particular appearance in this context, “ugly people” is sufficiently specific to get the same point across you’re trying to make with “uggos”. The fact you keep doubling down even after it was pointed out that you ar…
Well this has turned mostly into veiled threats and appeals to authority to carry out those veiled threats, so I agree there's not much left to say. But let me quote you: >A less male gender focused way of saying a “man-year”, a common term to imply the amount of effort, rather than an exact duration. I think I was mistaken in my assumption of good faith.
Could you please not post in the flamewar style to HN? It's not what this site is for.
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#67This is a duplicate of your other post that failed to get traction. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21898345 Please don't repost stuff. It gets annoying.
A small number of reposts is ok—see https://news.ycombinator.com/newsfaq.html. Two is a small number.
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#68Props for trying something new. Also the savings on bandwidth.
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#69> "References: He was really nice to me, and one of the nicest guys I've ever dated. We had some issues with his parents not liking me, that eventually caused us to break up. but otherwise I'm envious of the next person who gets to be with him!" The juxtaposition between dating and references.. doesn't work, at least to me. I can't imagine actually writing this about an ex. Especially, curious as to the circumstance…
That sounds pretty good to me.
Funny story. Good references from one of my ex wives got me in bed with two of her friends. However, they didn't want me, just my sperm. But it was still fun.
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#70Props for building this! The online dating market is a complete mess. It's basically an oligopoly, and has a pretty obvious misalignment of incentives. Novel ideas and competition are sorely needed.
As regards all the brilliant psychologists here who are commenting "looks matter to most people!": it's not as though you will find every person you meet on ohmyperson unattractive. The issue is that meeting people you find attractive might happen less frequently than it would on eg Tinder. How much less frequently is an empirical question. It's worth noting that edited, filtered, selection-biased Tinder profile pics are not always useful. Sometimes they're worse than nothing. I've been on a bunch of internet dates in the past year, and half the time my date looks nothing like their photos. At least with ohmyperson I won't feel duped.
The problem I see with this model is that it might naturally lead to the situation where people develop a strong connection over messages and then feel disappointed when they meet IRL, only to find that they are incompatible for reasons of physical attraction. This happens sometimes and it's a real bummer. (It's for this reason that I think you should meet - or pass - after sending a couple messages, rather than having a protracted convo).
Just as the Tinder model provides a coarse grained filter for looks, I can see ohmyperson providing a coarse grained filter for interests, values, and relationship goals. Some apps (bumble, okc) have various filters for these sorts of attributes, but in my opinion none have really figured it out all that well.