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Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by prpon »

Xurinos wrote: post #38
hanskuder wrote: post #29

I hate to burst the collective bubble of shy people everywhere, but the problem of "I like him/her; there must be a way to find out if he/she likes me back!" will NOT be solved by a cool new tool or piece of technology. It will be solved by actually gaining a bit of confidence and actually asking the person in question out on a date. This site is a cool idea. I'm sure you'll get plenty of users and some legitimate mu…

What you said is true; however, there is a huge market of people who will grasp at any opportunity that will allow them to stay within their comfort zones. Sometimes just the small chance that something could happen is sufficient. For example, somebody forwarded me that stupid "Bill Gates will give you money if you forward this email" message, and they commented, "This probably is not real, but just in case it is, I…

This desperation, be it for money, for companionship, or for any other strong desire, is ripe ground for snake oil. And the snake oil is that much stronger if it works -sometimes-... like hoping you win the Power Ball to solve your debt problems and seeing that there are average people like you who are winning it.

One of the best quotes I've seen in a while.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by Joshim5 »

namityadav wrote: post #24
bjonathan wrote: post #2

Hi fellow HNers, I wanted to show you our new project: SecretPoke.com . As big shy people ourselves and with Valentine's day coming up, we wanted an easy, anonymous and fun way to reach out to our crushes :) We would love your feedback as much on the concept than on the execution (name, copy, design,...). We built it in less than 10 days and we are ready to modify the website quickly to take your feedback into accoun…

Not bad for 10 days work. Just one small comment -- lose the song in the video. It's distracting. Use a simpler background music that sets the mood, but doesn't keep the viewer from focusing on the value proposition. BTW, what did you use to make the video? All the best!

I would also be interested in finding out how you made the video...Thanks!

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by [deleted] »

mahmud wrote: post #55
chegra wrote: post #31

Ok, let me see. Back in 2005 a friend sent me one of these crush anonymously. I didn't want to guess on the site who it was, but I wanted to know who it was. They had this feature where you enter your email if you forgot your password. So, I thought to myself, not many of my friends would know about this site and whoever it is was probably the only person of my friends to be on it. So, I enter the list of female frie…

Please DON'T do that. Don't type people's email addresses into whatever forms you come across online.

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Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by bjonathan »

dkarl wrote: post #52
bjonathan wrote: post #2

Hi fellow HNers, I wanted to show you our new project: SecretPoke.com . As big shy people ourselves and with Valentine's day coming up, we wanted an easy, anonymous and fun way to reach out to our crushes :) We would love your feedback as much on the concept than on the execution (name, copy, design,...). We built it in less than 10 days and we are ready to modify the website quickly to take your feedback into accoun…

Before using it I would want to be reassured on two points: 1. I wouldn't feel very optimistic using such a site because I assume the emails you send will seem like spam and will be deleted by the recipients without much thought. 2. Using this site makes one vulnerable to cruel trolling. Imagine three or four people getting together, "secret poking" people they know, and sharing the results for shits and giggles. If…

Hi dkarl,

Thank you for your feedback.

To answer your remarks:

1. We added a copy of the email we are sending in the frontpage (click on "what will they receive?") so you can see by yourself that it is a cute little mail. We are monitoring strongly the pourcentages of the crushes and we are testing some variations to know what perform best. You are right we need to communicate trust and we work toward that.

Although if she delete the email there is no arm for you as your anonymity is still preserved.

2. People are generally not that bad, I cant assure you that it won't happened. But SecretPoke only offer 3 free crushes so it should limit the secret poking ring .

I hope you will be served and that it will be with a person for whom you have a crush ;) Give it a try ... Life is full of good surprises :)

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by sbov »

mahmud wrote: post #55
chegra wrote: post #31

Ok, let me see. Back in 2005 a friend sent me one of these crush anonymously. I didn't want to guess on the site who it was, but I wanted to know who it was. They had this feature where you enter your email if you forgot your password. So, I thought to myself, not many of my friends would know about this site and whoever it is was probably the only person of my friends to be on it. So, I enter the list of female frie…

Please DON'T do that. Don't type people's email addresses into whatever forms you come across online.

As much as you protest this people will still do this.

Coincidentally, this is why I have a separate email address for any site that anyone may look down upon. Figuring out what sort of services you sign up for online is usually as trivial as trying to sign up a new account with your email address.

This is also why if my site enforces 1 user per email address, I make sure I do that check only if all other information is valid. In comparison, most sites let you enter a bunch of invalid information but a valid email address and will happily let you know that person already has an account. If you have to enter fully valid information, theres some risk you will sign the user up and let them know someone is using their email address for things.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by bjonathan »

Joshim5 wrote: post #82
namityadav wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not bad for 10 days work. Just one small comment -- lose the song in the video. It's distracting. Use a simpler background music that sets the mood, but doesn't keep the viewer from focusing on the value proposition. BTW, what did you use to make the video? All the best!

I would also be interested in finding out how you made the video...Thanks!

I will post next week a blog post about how we made the site (design+video+copy+testing+user feedback) . For the moment, we are 100% focus on how to improve the product and build a momentum thanks to the feedback we are receiving :)

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by bjonathan »

vessenes wrote: post #73
Splines wrote: post #63

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If I were serious about sending something through this, I'd be worried that using FB connect would leak information. Besides, why would I want my friends to know that I'm not confident enough to approach someone I had a crush on? ;)

This worry could be pretty easily assuaged with good copy. "We never, ever tell anyone who crushed on them without seeing if there's a match" and "See what will be posted to your crush's walls:"

As far as I know an app cant post or send an anonymous notification to a friend of the user.. So basically that kill the whole concept. Initially we wanted to do a facebook but ToS seemed pretty harsh on the subject...

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by Joakal »

nollidge wrote: post #45

In "I agree with the Terms of Service", there should be an obvious link style for "the Terms of Service". At first I was thinking " what terms of service?"

You're unlikely to read it anyway. The ToS uses the most lightest grey text and it's in français.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by bjonathan »

hncommenter12 wrote: post #66
bjonathan wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

love to hear that :) Do you remember the name of the website back then?

Here's a whole story about them from 2002: http://dir.salon.com/story/tech/feature/2002/08/07/crushmast...

Thanks a lot !
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