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Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by mustardhamsters »

mustardhamsters wrote: post #51

I was all down for this, about to find someone to submit to, when I decided I'd take a look at what the crush is going to receive. The wording in the first sentence put me off. I would change "Someone has a crush on you, but is afraid to take the first step..." to "Someone has a crush on you and is wondering if you felt the same way..." or something like that. The wording there prevented me from using the service.

More importantly perhaps, if the crush doesn't know the specific email address I used to submit, how can it find me? It might be good to allow users to connect multiple email addresses to their account to allow for more matches.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by Splines »

vessenes wrote: post #44

I like this idea a lot, but you absolutely need to kill the logins and just use facebook connect. It solves so many problems with the service, and will help it go viral, AND will let people just point and click on their friend list. Nice viral app, though! I hope it goes well. I bet you more than double if you use facebook for connection and messaging.

If I were serious about sending something through this, I'd be worried that using FB connect would leak information. Besides, why would I want my friends to know that I'm not confident enough to approach someone I had a crush on? ;)

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by dangero »

There was a website that did this around 2002 and it was funny because I'm pretty sure their technique for getting new users was to send false positive spam messages, "Someone has a crush on you. Come to find out who." Really nobody did, but you inevitably went to the site and entered the email of every person that you had a crush on in the off chance it was real. Then, BAM email database expanded rapidly. This idea is super viral.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by hncommenter12 »

bjonathan wrote: post #10
zackattack wrote: post #9

man some big money was made off this in 2003

love to hear that :) Do you remember the name of the website back then?

Here's a whole story about them from 2002: http://dir.salon.com/story/tech/feature/2002/08/07/crushmast...

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by draz »

francoisdevlin wrote: post #50
draz wrote: post #4

An idea for you: give users the option to send flowers (or anything else, for that matter). When the email is sent to the crush, it might say: "your secret crush would like to send you flowers. please fill in your address" or something. The initiator's credit card it charged if the crush fills in the address. You make money off the flower shop affiliate referral.

Eh, whatever happened to doing the good old fashioned leg work yourself? For the men: There isn't a woman in the world who will be impressed by saying "Can you fill out this form so I can send you flowers?"

I just assumed that the person did not know the crush's address. But I suppose he can still employ affiliate programs if the person DOES know the crush's address.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by Perceval »

zackattack wrote: post #9

man some big money was made off this in 2003

2005? Man, I fell for this back in high school, sometime between 1996–2000. It was a site functionally identical to this one. I got an email about someone who had a crush on me, asked for either the email or the AIM screenname (I forget which) of people you had a crush on.

I dutifully entered some girls at my high school and shortly thereafter I got a match: Julie. This was exciting, until she emailed me saying something along the lines of, "lol i was just trying to see who liked me."

Soured the whole experience for me.

I wonder if the SecretPoke designers have considered non-good-faith use cases? Is there any way to distinguish between good faith use, and manipulative, embarrassing, or purposeful outing use cases?

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by francoisdevlin »

draz wrote: post #68
francoisdevlin wrote: post #50

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Eh, whatever happened to doing the good old fashioned leg work yourself? For the men: There isn't a woman in the world who will be impressed by saying "Can you fill out this form so I can send you flowers?"

I just assumed that the person did not know the crush's address. But I suppose he can still employ affiliate programs if the person DOES know the crush's address.

Then JUST SEND THE FLOWERS!!!
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