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Same experience here, as soon as I dropped out of facebook, I was immediately blacklisted in every social circle that used it, even if the primary mode of communication was texting/email. Some op-ed considered dropping out of facebook as a radically anti-social act, and I'd have to agree: you're not considering the group's views on communication, and you're forcing them into a personal world. When the entire social c…
There's nothing antisocial about assessing your use of a service and deciding its benefits are less significant than its costs.
"If one person calls you a donkey, ignore him; if five people call you a donkey, buy a saddle"
I'm paranoid about information about myself. I left Facebook because I want explicit, direct control over what information about me is made available to whom. Yes, Facebook has privacy controls, but they are Facebook's privacy controls.
Don't see what the problem is? Why do you need to quit facebook? Even after reading all these arguments. I'm on facebook where I occasionally share a picture of my son or a picture from something I enjoy. I don't post often but this way my parents en grandparents can see my son growing up. Don't actually care if my 'friends' see this. When I'm on the toilet I sometimes take my iphone and check the FB stream. Check it…
I don't have that problem. My problem is that I notice someone invited me to a party two months ago, and didn't bother to contact me via direct email -- something I actually check regularly. I'm socially lazy in a way completely different from the social lazy he describes; I don't make any effort to check the various online sources of "socialness" with any regularity, in part because I'm an introverted hermit. I do well in social settings, but first you have to get me to a social setting.
Despite this, I can understand the siren call of a service like Facebook for some people, because on the rare occasion I remember to check my Facebook page I can hear it calling. After about five or ten minutes, though, I get tired of it and stop for another month or two. Many others do not have that low threshold for getting tired of the Facebook experience, and I can see how someone might get sucked in.
If you're one of those people, the only way to scale back might be to quit cold turkey. In fact, I think that's probably true for the majority of regular (as in "common and frequent") Facebook users, though they may not realize it.
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There's nothing antisocial about assessing your use of a service and deciding its benefits are less significant than its costs.
Cost/value whatever. I'm talking about other people's perceptions of you, which aren't logical. This is the anti-social behavior i'm talking about: you're right, the world's crazy. "If one person calls you a donkey, ignore him; if five people call you a donkey, buy a saddle"
When she calls me a donkey, I'll get fitted for a saddle. When vampyrlust317 and fifty of his/her Facebook "friends" do so, I'll probably ignore it.
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Cost/value whatever. I'm talking about other people's perceptions of you, which aren't logical. This is the anti-social behavior i'm talking about: you're right, the world's crazy. "If one person calls you a donkey, ignore him; if five people call you a donkey, buy a saddle"
I make it a point to hold in higher esteem the opinion of someone I personally know to have his or her head screwed on straight than a mob of virtual social butterflies who don't even know my girlfriend's name. When she calls me a donkey, I'll get fitted for a saddle. When vampyrlust317 and fifty of his/her Facebook "friends" do so, I'll probably ignore it.
I found that much of the "noise" on Facebook comes from the fact that I had too many "e-friends" at even 100-110 people. It was still well under the Dunbar[1] threshold, as I knew who they all were and could probably spend an hour on each one of them telling you how I knew them in high school or college, etc. But I simply got no value out of seeing a post from a woman I dated briefly in college 9 years ago talking ab…
It's very easy to hide people from your news feed without having to actively avoid them. Click the X next to their posts.
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I make it a point to hold in higher esteem the opinion of someone I personally know to have his or her head screwed on straight than a mob of virtual social butterflies who don't even know my girlfriend's name. When she calls me a donkey, I'll get fitted for a saddle. When vampyrlust317 and fifty of his/her Facebook "friends" do so, I'll probably ignore it.
Um, the close friends (people I knew for four+ years) are the people who stopped talking to me after I dropped off of facebook. It was generally a "why aren't you back on facebook" for several months, and then they just stopped responding to texts and emails.
Seriously, you need a better class of friends. Are you seriously telling me that people won't talk to you in person because you aren't on Facebook?
What the hell is wrong with people?