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Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by DoreenMichele »

prawn wrote: post #808
DoreenMichele wrote: post #780

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Thank you. I'm in a tiny town. I don't see this being a big market for resume work. (Locally, I do website work very part-time.) I had a former CEO on hiatus hire me while I was still homeless -- just before I got off the street, in fact. He was satisfied enough that his wife hired me a few months later, even though I had raised my prices. I've had a few people with a lot of tech experience. So I imagine a lot of peo…

I wonder if you could try a standalone website/brand purely for the resume service to isolate the spiel? polishedresumes.com or something. Make that the tip of your spear. You can be known for other things, but if someone wants to recommend your resume service to their peers, they have a URL that is to the point. That said, Homeless Resumes is a bit barefoot investor or whatever that brand is.

Thanks for the feedback.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by esolyt »

croo wrote: post #604
anon9001 wrote: post #510

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> Maybe I'm just weak, for not being willing to throw it all away and go live in a barrel up in the mountains. It's unclear to me if this is a weakness or a strength. I don't know which way is up. Are you a stronger person if you're willing to say fuck it and go do your own thing and not be concerned with things like health care and financial stability? Or are you a stronger person by steadfastly holding your station…

The problem is you can't really choose. As someone with a spouse and kids and possibly other people depending on you (aka your income), the pressure to acquire a monthly payment is astounding. There really is no simple or quick way out of this rat race.

As someone who is not depended on by anyone, I still have to acquire a monthly payment. I don't have a way out of the rat race either.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by epiphanitus »

draxofavalon wrote: post #155
MentallyRetired wrote: post #108

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I'd ask what third world country you live in, but it really sounds like America right now.

Yes, it feels like Argentina to me. I'm in Argentina.

Wow really? That's fascinating. Can you tell us more?

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by protectid »

ethbro wrote: post #679
protectid wrote: post #632

I am in software development but my troubles are at home. This is why I am using a throwaway. I am bad with relationships. There two sides to every story but this is my side. I have a quiet agreeable demeanor. Its a cultural thing and a personality thing. Unless something is going to affect my life I tend to agree. I seem to attract the opposite types of partner. My partners tend to do all the talking which is fine w…

I would have identified a lot with what you said, several years ago. The key advice I'd give: realize you are sabotaging your own relationships when you don't tell your partners how you feel about something. This is not helping them, you, or the relationship out. It may feel like that because there's "less" arguing, but ultimately you're just poisoning trust in the relationship. As proof, why do you think your partne…

Thanks for taking the time to respond. You insights and advice have helped me understand better what is going on. I also feel better about myself in that I am not the only one who has gone through similar stuff. Something about opening up to strangers on Internet :-).

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by epiphanitus »

hliyan wrote: post #187
dyadic wrote: post #49

Not really. My country is being ripped apart, everyone seems so hateful against the other, the government talks about record employment level and pay while people are using foodbanks and sleeping in the streets. My own life is great by the standards that people usually use to measure success. But it feels so empty. I'd rather check out and go and live in a cave on a hill, but all the land and caves have been parcelle…

I'm fairly certain we're from two different countries, but you pretty much described my feelings to a T. I wonder if this is a normal pattern, or whether the world is going through some sort of slow breakdown with no recent historical precedent?

Yes, I've been wondering this too - especially the economic part of it.

How is it that the same dynamic could be happening in so many countries that are ostensibly so different from each other?

I am inclined think that this is because of technological disruption, but how, exactly? Is this because of automation, globalization, or perhaps technology breaking governance systems somehow?

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by collyw »

Bootwizard wrote: post #86
SeeDave wrote: post #53

I am 'OK' in the sense that I like all of my colleagues and really do enjoy my work as a technical product manager. What's not 'OK' is that a snake-oil salesman/professional bullshitter who calls himself an 'Agile Consultant' has embedded himself in the organization. He's an all-talk arrogant blowhard with a savior complex centered around rescuing us from 'Waterfall'. What's not 'OK' in my personal life: I've been ha…

Well I gotta say, I've worked in Waterfall and now Agile and I couldn't even explain how much better it is. I feel like I can actually do my job now instead of worrying every day about process. You won't know how much better you're going to have it until you switch. Waterfall is a shackle around your hands and feet keeping you from getting actual work done. That being said, if you have an Agile consultant who is not…

I got taught waterfall at university and included iterations and being able to go back the way. The only real change with Agile is less specification (not necessarily good) and more frequent iterations (good).

Though as I have said on here before no one can actually agree on what Aglie actually is, so maybe whatever you are doing is working for you, so that's good.

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Post by Jenz »

dc90 wrote: post #617
Jenz wrote: post #392

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> it could be poor social skills. Is this an area where you can improve? My social skills are abyssmally non-existant... I am in a suprisingly similar situation to satokemas, all but the fact that I do not ever doubt "why bother" (I love the world) and I go to high school— I don’t work, that is. I’ve been alone for two years in school now, although I just recently got one friend that is very understanding, though I g…

You can improve, as everything, with enough trying and failing :). I did almost all of the school years mostly alone: I connected with very few people, even at university, mostly because i always had the anxiety of "what if I fail", "what if they don't like me". After starting to work and after changing country twice (trying to change everything i didn't like about myself every time) the biggest lesson I think I lear…

Thanks, this sounds nice.

Complex things, us humans...

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by collyw »

Waterluvian wrote: post #376
satokema wrote: post #162

Nth-ing no social life and the related whines. I hate the mild feeling of discomfort I get when I tell most people I'm a software engineer. I hate having eclectic or traditional "nerdy" interests and getting a similar reaction. I've been enjoying Classic, and I have a small online circle for the niche games/music/art I like. I hate that I like these things in spite of the detriment to my social benefit to liking them…

> I hate the mild feeling of discomfort I get when I tell most people I'm a software engineer. When I lived in Waterloo, everyone was a software person or related so it wasn't a problem. But I moved to a small city where almost everyone is a factory worker of some sort for farming or auto industries. When someone asks and I say I'm a software engineer, it usually stops there. Or they'll say something along the lines…

I usually change my title depending on who I am talking to.

Someone well educated who understand software should know what being a "software engineer" entails.

Talking to my mum or someone that isn't technical, I am a "computer programmer" as its something I think they will understand a lot more easily.

Or if the conversation is more casual say a random person in a pub, then I will even say I am a "computer nerd", as I think it brings you to their level a bit more and shows you don't take yourself too seriously.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by jacobush »

lonelappde wrote: post #763
reroute1 wrote: post #547

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Good for you, that sounds like a pretty unreasonable ultimatum to give someone.

Like anything, it depends how much of an all-consuming obsession it was, and if it was the straw that broke the camel's back on top of other marital troubles.

Of course. I'm not trying to present a case here - I'm just describing what happened inside me.

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Post by epiphanitus »

djsumdog wrote: post #217
dyadic wrote: post #49

Not really. My country is being ripped apart, everyone seems so hateful against the other, the government talks about record employment level and pay while people are using foodbanks and sleeping in the streets. My own life is great by the standards that people usually use to measure success. But it feels so empty. I'd rather check out and go and live in a cave on a hill, but all the land and caves have been parcelle…

I made it out a few times. After a break-in, I took off backpacking and lived off $20k NZD of savings for nearly a year: https://khanism.org/perspective/minimalism/ I attempted this a 2nd time in a car and it wasn't quite as good, but I'm still glad I did it: https://khanism.org/perspective/a-tale-of-two-journeys/ If you're under 30, holiday work visas are great. Tons of countries have these agreements, they're cheap…

Yeah, wth is happening with Seattle? It's home to some of the richest people on earth, employment is high and business is booming. But every time I visit the city I always see at least two people on the street who appear to be overdosing. Fortunately EMS is well prepared for this kind of thing, but boy have things changed. It's really hard to watch and I wish I knew what I could do to help.
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