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I Won’t Buy My Teenagers Smartphones

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Re: I Won’t Buy My Teenagers Smartphones

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Post by thefz »

docker_up wrote: post #11

My friend recently got his sons a smartphone and he says their relationship has been irrevocably damaged because of it. Not because they are rude, etc. But when they used to talk, now it's complete silence and them looking at their phones, chatting with their friends or girlfriends. He hates the phones now because there is no socialization whatsoever with his kids. The power of the phone is that strong, and he had su…

> But when they used to talk, now it's complete silence and them looking at their phones, chatting with their friends or girlfriends. He hates the phones now because there is no socialization whatsoever

I hate it but it happens with adults too all the time. Not only it's incredibly rude but I feel I'm missing a lot of meaningful communication

Re: I Won’t Buy My Teenagers Smartphones

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Post by ergothus »

ksdale wrote: post #94
ergothus wrote: post #91

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think you're taking a problem of "opportunity + practice = success" and pointing out that you had opportunity but not success, and therefore opportunity is irrelevant. > socialization is often meant as "acting like the popular kids act" (though it doesn't sound like you're using it that way) My usage is more a matter of "understanding the social skills that are not formally taught". In particular, I'm talking about…

Thank you for your reply! I mostly wanted to provide a countervailing anecdote rather than any sort of fixed rule. I would say that I definitely had success, by your definition of social. I've never had a problem making friends, but socialization as a kid didn't benefit me long term because being social with pre-teens and teenagers is useless training for being social with adults in a professional environment, which…

> being social with pre-teens and teenagers is useless training for being social with adults in a professional environment

I don't think I agree, but I've been spending some brain churn on this since you posted it so I'm not 100% settled on it.

It's definitely an interesting element to consider, thanks for going to this depth!

Re: I Won’t Buy My Teenagers Smartphones

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Post by lol_jono »

dang wrote: post #97
lol_jono wrote: post #8

ok boomer

Can you please stop posting unsubstantive comments to Hacker News? You've done it a lot and we ban accounts that do that repeatedly. We're trying for a bit better than internet default here: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html .

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