> because enough of their quirky or negative experiences with trans women are “just” with autistic people
While I hate to agree with this, it is also my opinion as a transgender woman myself.
I also believe that the percentage of trans people who are also part of the spectrum and who are in online support groups is even higher than 7%.
Often, they are quirky people who have difficulty expressing their opinions, points of view and identity. They often seem rude and frustrated. They are very passionate about the subject of gender identity and will make far-fetched statements and present them as facts. This results in very embarrassing interactions.
Personally, I can't stand their quirks and I often have negative experiences with them. These users will take up all the space and drive other users away.
My favorite Facebook support group is the result of two of these "migrations". The first group was huge and became "unstable", so a few people created a second one. After a while, some of the users from the first group found the second one so a third group was created. This group is set to invitation only and has around twenty users.
Many people approach me as if I was autistic, which I am not and it is frustrating at best.
This is very taboo and most people will not talk about it. You cannot deny support to people on the spectrum, but I wish they had their own spaces.
I would bet that most of the socially awkward encounters people have with trans individuals is just that. It's people interacting with people with autism. Being transgender is about finding and expressing your gender identity. Puberty is always awkward for anyone involved at first but most people grow out of it and become adults and this is no different for a second puberty.
Being stuck in-between, unable to express one's identity in a socially acceptable way is not a symptom of gender dysphoria, it is a symptom of the autistic spectrum disorder.
If people were more aware of this, they could act accordingly. Just because someone is on the spectrum doesn't mean that they are invalid in their trans identity. It simply means that they have their own needs and require a different mindset.
I understand that this is going to come across as very controversial. It is not my goal to belittle anyone and this is merely my anecdotal point of view as someone from within those communities.