Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you? • Hacker News Board

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by hazz99 » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 2:16 AM UTC

ethnologica wrote: post #107

•You are what you consume - People, music, news, etc. If you mostly consume the “positive” side of life, your mindset will follow. •Moving upwards in society is not as easy as I thought. “Classes” reproduce themselves in the dress of habitus. •You can only rely on yourself. “Friends” are stage of life companions. •Finding a partner in crime seems like a tough task - don’t settle with someone, who you are only with to…

> You are what you consume

I'd like to highlight this – especially for those searching for insight in the comments.

Pick and choose what media & content you consume. The adage "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with" applies directly to media.

Over the past ~6 months I've filtered a lot of stuff I read. I don't read online arguments. I don't read much political content. I try not to read anything that won't leave me feeling better afterwards.

This has lead to a marked improvement in my attitude and approach to life – I'm a much more positive person. Attitude changes have huge run-on effects in your life – my personal and professional relationships benefited hugely.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by postpawl » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 2:47 AM UTC

periram wrote: post #77

Anyone can run, you just need to reset your expectations. Backstory. I used to not like running at all. Every time I ran, my mind would count down either time left or distance left. It always felt easy in the beginning but very soon would be unattainable. But now I can run decent distances without getting mentally or physically exhausted. So here are the lessons: 1. The first 1 mile is the hardest. 2. Second mile is…

“After a few weeks magic happens. You can run 8 miles in about one hour, not get bored, not think about it.”

This is exactly how I got a bad case of shin splints. I don’t mess around with upping mileage this quickly anymore.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by heavenlyblue » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 2:52 AM UTC

hazz99 wrote: post #111

ethnologica wrote: post #107

•You are what you consume - People, music, news, etc. If you mostly consume the “positive” side of life, your mindset will follow. •Moving upwards in society is not as easy as I thought. “Classes” reproduce themselves in the dress of habitus. •You can only rely on yourself. “Friends” are stage of life companions. •Finding a partner in crime seems like a tough task - don’t settle with someone, who you are only with to…

> You are what you consume I'd like to highlight this – especially for those searching for insight in the comments. Pick and choose what media & content you consume. The adage "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with" applies directly to media. Over the past ~6 months I've filtered a lot of stuff I read. I don't read online arguments. I don't read much political content. I try not to read any…

>> I don't read online arguments.

Don’t you simply bored with those? I genuinely find them incredibly formulaic and then I just stop reading - most of the opinions are barely worth a dime unless the author actually did some homework supporting what they say.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by omosubi » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 3:00 AM UTC

ethnologica wrote: post #107

•You are what you consume - People, music, news, etc. If you mostly consume the “positive” side of life, your mindset will follow. •Moving upwards in society is not as easy as I thought. “Classes” reproduce themselves in the dress of habitus. •You can only rely on yourself. “Friends” are stage of life companions. •Finding a partner in crime seems like a tough task - don’t settle with someone, who you are only with to…

Related to your first point: I added the following to my hosts file 4 months ago and haven't looked back.

0.0.0.0 www.youtube.com

0.0.0.0 youtube.com

0.0.0.0 googlevideo.com

0.0.0.0 ytimg.l.google.com

0.0.0.0 ytimg.com

0.0.0.0 youtube-ui.l.google.com

0.0.0.0 ytstatic.l.google.com

0.0.0.0 youtubei.googleapis.com

0.0.0.0 youtu.be

0.0.0.0 l.google.com

0.0.0.0 m.youtube.com

If someone sends me something, I'll watch it on my phone and I have a timer to limit YouTube on my phone to half an hour a day. My mental health has improved dramatically as a result.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by eldavido » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 3:05 AM UTC

In all honesty, when to keep my mouth shut. This is really hard for me. I still see tons of bullshit, posturing, and nonsense, I'm just better at censoring myself.

It's useful but surprisingly stress-inducing.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by tmilard » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 3:14 AM UTC

I learnt something most youg developers all ready know. When having a program in Java and want to feed gui in Web, Spring Boot api is so simple, fast and nice to use.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by epiphanitus » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 3:36 AM UTC

ethnologica wrote: post #107

•You are what you consume - People, music, news, etc. If you mostly consume the “positive” side of life, your mindset will follow. •Moving upwards in society is not as easy as I thought. “Classes” reproduce themselves in the dress of habitus. •You can only rely on yourself. “Friends” are stage of life companions. •Finding a partner in crime seems like a tough task - don’t settle with someone, who you are only with to…

>>You are what you consume - People, music, news, etc.

Real life > HN > tech news > political news >= crazy uncles on antisocial media

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by leoh » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 3:36 AM UTC

Anti-fascist wrote: post #102

alexk307 wrote: post #18

1. Work-life balance is more important than money. 2. Don't trust your company to do right by you even if you really believe that they will. Only you can look out for you. 3. Cannabis is medicine.

From my experience, cannabis can be medicine but most people just smoke bad stuff they don't know or get addicted to either real cannabis or the bad stuff. Cannabis unlike, say mushrooms, is addictive so watch out. It can make one crave, especially if they experienced neglect, bullying, or violence in childhood. Enjoy it with moderation! :)

What is the "bad stuff"? What do you mean by that?

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by bwb » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 3:47 AM UTC

raghavkukreti wrote: post #30

I've failed, I'm not as smart as I think and in the end, I know I'm useless.

While the first two might be true for all of us, you def are not useless and I hope you have someone to talk to out there as that sounds like a dark place to be in right now. I highly recommend https://www.7cups.com/anonymous-chat/ or drop me an email at bwbbwb@gmail.com if you want to chat. We all fail, we are all not as smart as we think :), but none of us our useless.

Re: Ask HN: What have the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by sys_64738 » Sat, Jul 20, 2019, 4:15 AM UTC

AwesomeFaic wrote: post #13

I took a seemingly dull job for good, reliable pay and long-term prospects. I thought I was sacrificing personal interests for the sake of being a responsible adult, but in fact the income and generous work-life balance has given me more freedom to pursue outside interests than ever before. And the work isn't as dull as I expected.

This. I pole vaulted to a bigger company which was more stable where decisions have long term consequences and not short term reactions. My free time is more important as I get older. I'm happy I made the decision to pursue the new job.