She sacrficed the well-being of her own children for the well-being of complete strangers. There is enough attorneys that can do her job but there is only one person that can be a mother to these two kids - and that's her.
I’ve Picked My Job over My Kids
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That happens like 10% of the time if you are lucky. Rest of it can be kinda monotonous? Like, getting my daughter from bed through breakfast, dressing up, and walking to kindergarten. Or getting her to walk all the way to her friends house for a play date. Or getting her dinner, showered, and to bed ... I still like it, but the day to day is stressful and monotonous
A paying job is usually stressful and mnotonotous and the main upside is the salary.
Literally apples and oranges
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Let me ask you: had you heard of this very old statistic until now? Why not? Edit: I dusted off my Google-fu and found this: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1854883/
Yes. There's nothing intuitively shocking about those results. What exactly is your concern here?
Weird. In one reply you ask me why these studies don't exist, in the next you agree they exist and are not controversial.
That is, women are more violent than men.
Weird.
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> You will feel, at times, like you're letting down everyone equally My girlfriend struggles with that quite a bit. And now that we're fully cohabitated and my work-from-home / lack-of-commute situation allows me to participate in more kids things that aren't accomodating to parents with traditional work schedules and typical commutes... I get heaps of praise from everyone, including her, for basically just not being…
Eh, the bar is set low for men. Stick around, hold down a job, and actually parent, and you're considered amazing. It's the flip side of the "women with careers are neglecting their children" and "men at the park are paedos!" mindset. It's nice having positive feedback, but I'd prefer a society where it's unremarked upon.
I’d prefer a society where it’s unremarked upon too, but it’s really not about you.
Yeah you’re getting praise for being there for your child, sometimes overbearingly so, like you were rare and precious.
Maybe it’s because you are rare and precious. Maybe most men are shits. Maybe you are one of the very few who aren’t.
Personally, I like children about as much as I like cats, but much less than I like dogs.
But I hate the unruly ones. Almost makes one yearn for the days of ritual infanticide.
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#335"Neither of us pays the other support." And why would you, if you both have jobs. However, the father should pay support to his kids for sure.
She says in the previous sentence that they have joint custody. So it seems they both support them directly on their own and not through payments to the other.
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#336Earlier quoted context omitted.
Yes. There's nothing intuitively shocking about those results. What exactly is your concern here?
Weird. In one reply you ask me why these studies don't exist, in the next you agree they exist and are not controversial. That is, women are more violent than men. Weird.
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#337Earlier quoted context omitted.
Yes. There's nothing intuitively shocking about those results. What exactly is your concern here?
Weird. In one reply you ask me why these studies don't exist, in the next you agree they exist and are not controversial. That is, women are more violent than men. Weird.
The only weird thing going on here is you are drawing conclusions not supported by data that your are citing, and intimating systemic suppression where there is none.
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Being Norwegian, I've found that quite a few Icelandic words are just brilliantly descriptive. I just learned another one; leikskoli. Beats our 'barnehage' for kindergarten, that's for sure!
Almost the same in swedish: lekskola (or "lekis") and dagskola ("dagis") but they have now been replaced by the more pretentious "förskola" as we like to be pretentious over here. "barnhage" is a small cage you put toddlers in so they can't escape - makes sense you guys use that word for kindergarten ;)
Ooh, ze plot thickens. We call that little cage a 'lekegrind'.
Førskole is a bridge between kindergarten and primary school - typically a few hours a week for the last few months in kindergarten.
We've been pretentious at least since I attended førskole some 35 years ago! Hah! :)
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>If you're intellectually driven then looking after two young children isn't fascinating. I've never understood this viewpoint - children are simply the most fascinating things! They're born with next to no inborn knowledge and yet have the potential to learn about quantum mechanics. Someone with the same potential would only have learned about fire some hundred thousands of years ago. In the early days you get to se…
On the scale of months and years children are amazing, and I agree it’s fascinating to watch as they develop into their own people. However, on the scale of hours and days they can be mind-numbingly boring, as anyone who’s played hide and seek with a four year old who repeatedly goes and hides in their bedroom cupboard can probably attest. I love my boy dearly, but I am so, so, bored of playing the first hour of Mine…
Yes. Parenting is fascinating, wonderful, but also exhausting to do it well.
Childhood is long days and short years.
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#340I made the opposite choice. I'm a single father and I've prioritised my children over my career. I'm not going to pretend it's an amazing lifestyle. If you're intellectually driven then looking after two young children isn't fascinating. However, I love them and they rely on me. I made a choice to bring them into the world and I'm not going to neglect them. I have the kids more than their mother does, and I also pay…
>If you're intellectually driven then looking after two young children isn't fascinating. I've never understood this viewpoint - children are simply the most fascinating things! They're born with next to no inborn knowledge and yet have the potential to learn about quantum mechanics. Someone with the same potential would only have learned about fire some hundred thousands of years ago. In the early days you get to se…
> I've never understood this viewpoint - children are simply the most fascinating things!
Yeah seriously. My wife and I have a six month old and simply because we want to educate her, we've both been reading way more than normal. My wife (who stays at home with our daughter all day) has already completed a university lecture series + read many books on ancient civilizations. I've started reading about philosophy on my bus ride to/from work.
Having children has only expanded our desire and ability to learn.