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Wow that youtube video she included was the most annoying thing I've seen all week. I lasted 30s. And yes, she does sound self-involved, as she speculates at the end of the post. Of course she gets to have her rant (why ask?) but I have to wonder why... it doesn't come off very well.
The author's issue not with men hitting on her, as she clearly explains. Her issue is with men obtaining her contact information ostensibly to do business and then using that contact information to hit on her.
Really, is that distinction so hard to understand? Stop excusing bad behaviour under the guise of "biology" or other lame rationalizations. They are as demeaning to men as they are insulting to women.
How are so many comments misreading things? She's not complaining about being hit on. She's complaining about a bait-and-switch -- pretextually getting her number or other contact information in a business context, and using it later for personal contact.
She explicitly said that she will reject anyone who hits on her. How's that not complaining about being hit on?
She's saying that anyone who wouldn't hit on her, but still take her card and use it to get a date, are the types of guys she'd want to reject if they did suddenly decide to hit on her.
She could also make it clear on the card that it is a business number.
I'm surprised at the arrogance and even offensiveness of several of the comments posted here. (I'm also reminded of the currently trending article about sexual harassment and assault at OSS conventions.) The author's issue not with men hitting on her, as she clearly explains. Her issue is with men obtaining her contact information ostensibly to do business and then using that contact information to hit on her. Really…
It's not beyond the realms of possibility that the following is the case:
The men "hitting on" her are perfectly polite and
interested in her professionally, but also want to see if
there's a chance of a date. If she were to reply, "sorry
no", they would leave it at that.
Two things: 1. You're a woman, and men will hit on you, and that's not a bad thing; it's biology. 2. If you think SF men are aggressive, then obviously you haven't been out much. I don't think I've been anywhere in the world that's LESS aggressive than SF when it comes to dating/mating. Go to Brazil and see what aggressiveness is.
#2 doesn't make it right. Does a woman not have the right not to face that? If you've got a girl, don't you feel personally that she shouldn't have to face that? At what point are aggressive come-ons just harassment?
Are you speaking for ALL women?
In Brazil, women love it when you aggressively peruse them.
In SF, men don't talk to women, and women's number one complaint is exactly that.
The environment in tech sounds about like the military: women have to be prepared to physically fight their own team. Which is deeply unfortunate.