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She's not complaining about being hit on. She's complaining about a bait-and-switch -- pretextually getting her number or other contact information in a business context, and using it later for personal contact.
A male hit on her, in San Francisco . Context is everything, no? This is possibly amazing, but amazing enough to generate a blog post? I've seen a lot of comments in social media from SF women stating that they can't get a guy to even look at them.
Context really is everything, which is why I found your comment misleading. The topic of her post is not that a male hit on her anywhere in San Francisco. What she's talking about is the fact that some male(s) interpreted exchanging of business cards as "giving out a phone number" which can then be used for personal reasons, such as hitting on her. Furthermore, she finds herself facing an interesting dilemma: she fee…
How are so many comments misreading things? She's not complaining about being hit on. She's complaining about a bait-and-switch -- pretextually getting her number or other contact information in a business context, and using it later for personal contact.
I'm a man and I've certainly questioned the intentions of quite a few women who "network.". I've also had questionable intentions with women I've networked with. So what? Flirting happens when sexes meet. Sometimes even more. If you want to close the door on that, say you have a boyfriend or your not interested in dating, or just don't flirt back. Otherwise you're the wuss for being unable to handle the facts of life…
How are so many comments misreading things? She's not complaining about being hit on. She's complaining about a bait-and-switch -- pretextually getting her number or other contact information in a business context, and using it later for personal contact.
She explicitly said that she will reject anyone who hits on her. How's that not complaining about being hit on?
The bulk of the post, the actual problem she's complaining about, is being hit on by "stealth", where she can't bluntly reject without compromising other interests, whatever the context is supposed to be on the surface.
EDIT: Whoever downvoted you is an asshole. Explaining the reasoning for your interpretation is a necessary part of this conversation.
Two things: 1. You're a woman, and men will hit on you, and that's not a bad thing; it's biology. 2. If you think SF men are aggressive, then obviously you haven't been out much. I don't think I've been anywhere in the world that's LESS aggressive than SF when it comes to dating/mating. Go to Brazil and see what aggressiveness is.
Does a woman not have the right not to face that? If you've got a girl, don't you feel personally that she shouldn't have to face that?
At what point are aggressive come-ons just harassment?
If all you do is schmooze then is it really so strange that someone might mistake your intent as unrelated to acting as a supplier, partner or client to their business? How cut and dried really is it? It's not like she's a developer looking for a new project or something that would clearly qualify as "serious business".
It does have the not-so-faint whiff of life is so hard everybody wants me.