Hacker News Board Hacker News, browsed like a classic message board
Live data from Hacker News

I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

fastcompany.com

Post reply on HN
Print view View original

101–110 of 182 posts

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#101

Post by astura »

micael_dias wrote: post #73
foxhop wrote: post #62

Do we think this is maybe more of a mom trait than a dad trait? I know I have posted maybe a couple images of my children (2, 7, and 11) over the last 11 years. My wife on the other hand posts at least twice a day with images and quotes. I wonder if woman sort of use Facebook as a sort of "shared" baby book for their little cubs?

Twice a day? Don't want to be offensive but that seems very excessive. Even for people I know on Facebook that post regularly their kids' photos I think the maximum I see is once a week. I'm not from the US and don't follow that many people so that might be why.

My sister in law posts baby pics, no joke, 5 times a day, minimum. It's outrageous (IMO)

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#102

Post by ilikehurdles »

scott_s wrote: post #44

Kids realizing they already have an online presence made by the people who were teaching them about being responsible about their online presence is becoming A Thing. Two other stories with similar circumstances: "When Kids Realize Their Whole Life Is Already Online" https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2019/02/when-... "My daughter asked me to stop writing about motherhood. Here’s why I can’t do that." htt…

That Washington post author is quite the narcisstic scumbag. I feel disgusted reading the writing of someone so extremely self-absorbed.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#103

Post by chengiz »

A 14 year old who is embarrassed by what their parents posted == a 14 year old who is embarrassed by what their parents did == a 14 year old.

When this girl grows up, she'll understand she was being immature and there's nothing embarrassing about your parents posting moments about you that made them proud. Her parents seem awesome that they're respecting her wishes now.

As I write this, I'm reminded of a Louis CK bit when he describes your thought process when you see a woman scolding her kid in public. When you're not a parent (which seems like most commenters here), you're thinking OMG what a terrible parent. When you're a parent, you're thinking what must that child have done to that poor woman.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#105

Post by Jaruzel »

ianlevesque wrote: post #77
LeonM wrote: post #61

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I applaud you. My sister had a baby last year, and she's been posting and sharing photos and videos non-stop. Recently she asked me if I knew if hackers could break into baby monitor because she was worried some hacker may spy on her sleeping baby... I had a good laugh first, then I felt sad for her.

> I had a good laugh first, then I felt sad for her It's an issue of consent. She's voluntarily sharing specific selected photos & videos with her social peers, a hacked baby monitor would be a violation. The glib dismissal here helps nobody.

> It's an issue of consent.

Her baby hasn't given consent. Believe you me, there's loads of 'Invasion of Privacy' lawsuits from kids to their parents coming down the pipe over the next decade.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#106

Post by james-skemp »

jpfed wrote: post #71
gringoDan wrote: post #15

I sympathize with this perspective. I too would be livid and mortified if my family shared embarrassing photos of me in exchange for the quick dopamine hit that validation from acquaintances provides. I'm hopeful that in the next several years there is a pushback against social media and the idea that for an experience to be valid, it must be shared. There's something to be said for having an album of photos that you…

>There's something to be said for having an album of photos that you pull out a couple of times a year to show a select group of others. My perhaps unreasonable hope for a Facebook killer is just a paid personal archive of your own photos, writings, etc. with the assumption of privacy by default.

If you have an Amazon Prime subscription you get unlimited photo storage and a certain amount of space for videos/documents for free.

You can also create groups and post photos/videos to that for sharing with family.

Only issue I've run into is the Amazon Photos app on Android doesn't always back up photos as timely as I'd like, and deleting photos on my phone (wanting them to stay in the cloud) results in some odd behavior with images not loading, even though pulling up a computer they're still there.

I also have a quite large video that it keeps getting stuck on with the upload, which might be part of the issue.

https://www.amazon.com/Amazon-Photos/b?ie=UTF8&node=13234696...

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#107

Post by sverige »

jpfed wrote: post #71
gringoDan wrote: post #15

I sympathize with this perspective. I too would be livid and mortified if my family shared embarrassing photos of me in exchange for the quick dopamine hit that validation from acquaintances provides. I'm hopeful that in the next several years there is a pushback against social media and the idea that for an experience to be valid, it must be shared. There's something to be said for having an album of photos that you…

>There's something to be said for having an album of photos that you pull out a couple of times a year to show a select group of others. My perhaps unreasonable hope for a Facebook killer is just a paid personal archive of your own photos, writings, etc. with the assumption of privacy by default.

The old school version is my aged mother finding birth announcements from the late 50s and early 60s handwritten by my aunt for each of her four children. My aunt passed away five years ago. She sent the originals to each of my cousins by snail mail. They were thrilled to receive such a thing written by their mother.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#108

Post by [deleted] »

rhn_mk1 wrote: post #91
Reedx wrote: post #84

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's interesting how that changed within one generation in many cases. Millennials started using the Internet when conventional wisdom was to not use your real name online. Don't reveal your age or location. Don't post your photo. Use an anonymous name. We went from that to the complete opposite.

The internet from 10 years ago was also less likely to remember everything you do forever. Messaging between friends happened using services that didn't save conversation history server side, public chat rooms including IRC were rarely logged, blog posts had a minimal reach, and were largely pseudonymous anyway, making the connection with a real person more difficult. Perhaps this kind of lack of consequences drove p…

[deleted]

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#109

Post by gugagore »

rhn_mk1 wrote: post #91
Reedx wrote: post #84

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's interesting how that changed within one generation in many cases. Millennials started using the Internet when conventional wisdom was to not use your real name online. Don't reveal your age or location. Don't post your photo. Use an anonymous name. We went from that to the complete opposite.

The internet from 10 years ago was also less likely to remember everything you do forever. Messaging between friends happened using services that didn't save conversation history server side, public chat rooms including IRC were rarely logged, blog posts had a minimal reach, and were largely pseudonymous anyway, making the connection with a real person more difficult. Perhaps this kind of lack of consequences drove p…

In fact, young me didn't think that websites, mostly forums and early microblogging sites, would ever go away. I wish I could see those posts today.

It may be a fabricated memory, but I remember always being aware of the lack of privacy in those services. And never using your last name or sharing your location.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

#110

Post by Jaruzel »

clarkmoody wrote: post #49

I love the idea of data locality: your home server contains your trove of photos, videos, music, and you grant limited shares to visitors. The digital equivalent of pulling out the photo album from under the coffee table. This sort of idea dovetails nicely with the Secure Scuttlebutt concept that the social network graph mirrors the physical network: you swap the latest posts with others as you find yourself on the s…

Commercialise a shiny black box that plugs into the power (like a Wifi Extender), that:

1. Connects to the internet

2. uPnPs silently port 80 to itself

3. Registers a name with a dynamic DNS service (remember those?)

4. Has ~4GB local storage

5. Runs a 'newsfeed' type web portal or API.

6. Has a Phone app for easy sharing/creation of content.

Make this 100% turnkey for non-technical people and you MAY have a chance at getting people to stop storing personal stuff 'in the cloud'. I don't hold out much hope though.

Post reply on HN