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My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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It depends on how old you are. Life is funny and never turns our how you thought it would. I do like going back and reading the article "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" by Mary Schmich (popularized by Baz Luhrmann in the song 'Everybody's Free') from time to time[1] [1] (snippet) > Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth…

I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to cuddle. :-( But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy. So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.

>The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.

The way I read it, it seemed very much like she was an independent woman who really didn't have any great yearning for a close relationship with a man. There's a lot of women out there like that, and honestly, we'd all be a lot better off if they would just admit this to themselves, and stop looking for boyfriends/husbands and just look for casual relationships instead. Someone like that isn't going to be a good relationship partner, and then is going to cause a lot of emotional devastation for some unlucky man.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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One of the things about getting older and divorced, people use to join organizations at higher rates, now we moved to online communities and an online/mobile life. With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc. I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least…

Maybe a dumb questions, but what does a person do as a member of the Masons? Is it all dinners and connections? Is there community outreach? What do the Masons do?

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

It depends on how old you are. Life is funny and never turns our how you thought it would. I do like going back and reading the article "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" by Mary Schmich (popularized by Baz Luhrmann in the song 'Everybody's Free') from time to time[1] [1] (snippet) > Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth…

I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to cuddle. :-( But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy. So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.

I read this article and saw only a wistful look back at the past, contrasting with her life now. I didn't detect any sort of sadness. I read her coming to the realization that she's happy as she is, a single woman in her forties.

This article actually made me feel really good but I am a divorced woman of 40. It's nice to see other women in the same situation enjoying life without feeling the need to partner up again. Some of us were just made to be solitary creatures.

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One of the things about getting older and divorced, people use to join organizations at higher rates, now we moved to online communities and an online/mobile life. With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc. I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least…

I am a member of a fraternal order similar to the Masons ( https://odd-fellows.org/ ). It's great because: * There are standing meeting nights that I can go to for social contact * It does good work in the community * It lets you meet folks outside of work circles * It lets you have an opportunity to build soft and leadership skills * If I have to leave for a while because of work or other time commitments, I know I…

I'm seriously considering something like odd fellows (thanks for reminding me of them) - exactly for the non-work social and community aspects - but with a secular flavor ( I have some family members who are in the Lions club). A buddy of mine mentioned "mastermind" groups too.

(ps. fwiw - portland or)

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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One of the things about getting older and divorced, people use to join organizations at higher rates, now we moved to online communities and an online/mobile life. With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc. I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least…

Maybe a dumb questions, but what does a person do as a member of the Masons? Is it all dinners and connections? Is there community outreach? What do the Masons do?

Here's the oregon masonic lodge faq: https://www.masonic-oregon.com/faq/

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47 != 27... this article is glorifying spinsterhood.

Apparently an unpopular opinion. Anybody could have predicted this outcome because it keeps happening over and over again while a whole new generation of women line up to chase the wild goose.

Very unpopular (flagged). It's a harsh world where we live, especially when there exists harsh data resulting from this type of glorification in rich countries.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sub-replacement_fertility

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.DYN.TFRT.IN?location...

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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47 != 27... this article is glorifying spinsterhood.

Apparently an unpopular opinion. Anybody could have predicted this outcome because it keeps happening over and over again while a whole new generation of women line up to chase the wild goose.

I'm sorry if the first comment was rude or uncivilized. I have read where I could be doing wrong in the guidelines.

Have a great day everybody.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am a member of a fraternal order similar to the Masons ( https://odd-fellows.org/ ). It's great because: * There are standing meeting nights that I can go to for social contact * It does good work in the community * It lets you meet folks outside of work circles * It lets you have an opportunity to build soft and leadership skills * If I have to leave for a while because of work or other time commitments, I know I…

I'm seriously considering something like odd fellows (thanks for reminding me of them) - exactly for the non-work social and community aspects - but with a secular flavor ( I have some family members who are in the Lions club). A buddy of mine mentioned "mastermind" groups too. (ps. fwiw - portland or)

Odd Fellows may not meet your needs, but optimists or rotary are a good option.
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