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My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by mooreds »

IronWolve wrote: post #29

One of the things about getting older and divorced, people use to join organizations at higher rates, now we moved to online communities and an online/mobile life. With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc. I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least…

I am a member of a fraternal order similar to the Masons ( https://odd-fellows.org/ ). It's great because:

* There are standing meeting nights that I can go to for social contact

* It does good work in the community

* It lets you meet folks outside of work circles

* It lets you have an opportunity to build soft and leadership skills

* If I have to leave for a while because of work or other time commitments, I know I can rejoin in 1, 5 or 10 years and be welcomed back.

Highly recommend. Even easier if you can get a group of folks to join. And most of the older members I chatted with were thrilled to have new members.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by edgarvaldes »

jlarocco wrote: post #33
warkdarrior wrote: post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No, but it is common to use 360 to mean "completely different". Random example: https://waynestiles.com/how-to-turn-your-life-around-360-deg...

I don't think it is common. The correct phrase, and what I've always heard, is "180 degrees", meaning "the opposite direction". I can imagine "360 degrees" being used by people who are bad at math or not thinking about it, though. In the article the author really means 360, though, because she's back where she started.

I dunno about other languages, but in Spanish it is pretty common both the error and the immediate correction by any bystander.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by Zelphyr »

IronWolve wrote: post #29

One of the things about getting older and divorced, people use to join organizations at higher rates, now we moved to online communities and an online/mobile life. With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc. I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least…

Not all lodges are the same. Check out other lodges in your area to get a feel for them and their membership.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by js2 »

ProAm wrote: post #30
gamesbrainiac wrote: post #18

This article is so very sad. The author seems to be in a constant state of Deja vu.

It depends on how old you are. Life is funny and never turns our how you thought it would. I do like going back and reading the article "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" by Mary Schmich (popularized by Baz Luhrmann in the song 'Everybody's Free') from time to time[1] [1] (snippet) > Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth…

I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to cuddle. :-(

But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy.

So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by justinclift »

js2 wrote: post #44
ProAm wrote: post #30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It depends on how old you are. Life is funny and never turns our how you thought it would. I do like going back and reading the article "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" by Mary Schmich (popularized by Baz Luhrmann in the song 'Everybody's Free') from time to time[1] [1] (snippet) > Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth…

I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to cuddle. :-( But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy. So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.

Their life seems to be a journey and direction different from the norm, yet they seem to be fairly ok with it.

It also seems like they'd be pretty unhappy if they'd had a life like yours (father of two ...), more because it's not suitable for them rather than there anything being wrong with it.

Overall, seems like an interesting - and potentially useful reminder that "it takes all kinds to make the world go around". ;)

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by bay12please »

dpeck wrote: post #6

| In 20 years, my life has come full circle, 360 degrees for real. People often say 360 degrees when they mean 180. They say full circle when they’re really talking about a semicircle. I've never experience this, is it common for some group of people to use 180 to mean "the same" vs "completely different"?

This.

https://youtu.be/g751-jjKXC0

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by magduf »

rconti wrote: post #21
mywittyname wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That caught my eye too. Maybe it's a west coast thing. In the midwest, to do a 180 is to go in a completely different direction, and to come full-circle is to return to where you were after some long journey.

No, I think she just poorly wrote it. "Coming full circle" always means to return to where you started. But sometimes people say "turned it around 360 degrees" when they really mean 180.

Yep, Americans don't understand basic geometry any more.

Re: My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27

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Post by magduf »

iratewizard wrote: post #40
CentroAmericano wrote: post #36

47 != 27... this article is glorifying spinsterhood.

Apparently an unpopular opinion. Anybody could have predicted this outcome because it keeps happening over and over again while a whole new generation of women line up to chase the wild goose.

Please explain your "wild goose" comment. The parent comment is unviewable now so I'm curious what you're talking about. As a guy near the author's age, I have had some interesting observations of my own about single women over the age of 35.
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