An Epidemic of Loneliness in America? • Hacker News Board

Re: An Epidemic of Loneliness in America?

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Post by ethanwillis » Mon, Dec 10, 2018, 9:26 AM UTC

WalterBright wrote: post #50

ethanwillis wrote: post #47

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yea, I've recently gotten into working on cars for fun. I've gotten 2 cars I bought at auction from no start/no crank to running in the past few months.. But no one around me is interested in tinkering. Hopefully I can find someone to help me with an engine rebuild (my next major learning goal). Then messing with turbos. People in tech are especially averse it seems to me to wanting to do manual labor type things lik…

Heck, it's fun to even just go visit the other guy while he works on his car, drink beer, and insult his execrable taste in cars. And vice versa :-)

I'll never feel shame for liking crappy Toyota Tercels. It was my first real car and you can hypermile the shit out of them :)

Re: An Epidemic of Loneliness in America?

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Post by ethanwillis » Mon, Dec 10, 2018, 9:28 AM UTC

WalterBright wrote: post #54

ethanwillis wrote: post #47

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yea, I've recently gotten into working on cars for fun. I've gotten 2 cars I bought at auction from no start/no crank to running in the past few months.. But no one around me is interested in tinkering. Hopefully I can find someone to help me with an engine rebuild (my next major learning goal). Then messing with turbos. People in tech are especially averse it seems to me to wanting to do manual labor type things lik…

> messing with turbos Haha, ain't nothing like the sound of a belt-driven supercharger. I didn't stick one in the dodge because: 1. it would stick up through the hood, messing up my all-go-no-show plan 2. it would wind up the body of the car into a pretzel if I didn't add a ton of stiffening 3. without one it dyno'd at 400hp which turned out to be enough to scare the crap out of me

400, nice.

One of the things I'm worried about is all the heat they generate. I was watching a guy on youtube and he had to build a ridiculous heat shield to keep it from melting stuff around his turbo. Seems fun though!

I just want to add a blow off valve and get that sound.

I find myself watching these videos a lot. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gn-AoxKQB90&t=11s

I don't even like driving fast, I drive like a grandma haha

Re: An Epidemic of Loneliness in America?

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Post by screye » Mon, Dec 10, 2018, 2:54 PM UTC

InGodsName wrote: post #96

I had trouble making friends untill i came across a movie called "The Social Network". Before, i was like Zuck (fb founder, the one who blogged about his girlfriend) from the movie, very annoying but always spewing ultimate truth regardless of whether it hurts people or not. Now i act like Sean Parker (Napster founder, the one who brought Peter Theil on board as an investor) from the movie, either people ignore me or…

Don't you think this kind of defeats the propose of having a friend ? Sure, you don't want to be an asshole like social network zuck, but that doesnt mean one should suppress themselves just to please others.

I have thought of friendship as a distinctly tiered system. I very carefully reveal parts of me to a lower tier of friends (mostly acquaintances), and use those reactions to gauge of I want to reveal more of myself to them.

Trust and exposing vulnerability are IMO at the Crux of what friendship is. There is a certain irrationality and lack of equal exchange that goes into being a friend. Like sometimes inconveniencing yourself to help a friend, without any clear short term reward in sight.

If I had to always act like someone else in front of my friends, then I would say I don't have friends at all.

Re: An Epidemic of Loneliness in America?

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Post by [deleted] » Mon, Dec 10, 2018, 5:35 PM UTC

screye wrote: post #123

InGodsName wrote: post #96

I had trouble making friends untill i came across a movie called "The Social Network". Before, i was like Zuck (fb founder, the one who blogged about his girlfriend) from the movie, very annoying but always spewing ultimate truth regardless of whether it hurts people or not. Now i act like Sean Parker (Napster founder, the one who brought Peter Theil on board as an investor) from the movie, either people ignore me or…

Don't you think this kind of defeats the propose of having a friend ? Sure, you don't want to be an asshole like social network zuck, but that doesnt mean one should suppress themselves just to please others. I have thought of friendship as a distinctly tiered system. I very carefully reveal parts of me to a lower tier of friends (mostly acquaintances), and use those reactions to gauge of I want to reveal more of mys…

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