Married to somebody met online, but not through a dating site.
Poll: OkCupid stories
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#62Earlier quoted context omitted.
You are doing it wrong. The way to do it is to let them come to you. I've never initiated any conversation on OKCupid and I've been on dates with about 50 women from that site. They have always contacted me first. In mid september of this year I had 15 different women contact me in one week, resulting in 10 dates, which was the record. The key is to just have a few decent photos and be funny. It's very surprising how…
I agree that it's better when women send first messages. This dating site startup is trying to take advantage of that by not allowing men to send initial messages: http://www.herway.com
I wonder how this dynamic plays out for homosexual relationships.
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#63Generally found that most Caucasian dating sites work if you are Caucasian (or want to date Caucasian people), which in hindsight seems obvious really. The "popular" ethnic sites (e.g. shaadi.com) are geared more towards "marriage" than "dating", but surprisingly most ethnic people on them want to "get to know you first" for a long time (in most Indo society this is usually done in a family context i.e. with others a…
I guess the question there would be, why reinvent the wheel and lose any network effects by making an "ethnic OkCupid"? If you can successfully identify whatever it is that makes OKC not "ethnic" enough, wouldn't it be better to get OKC to basically put on a different skin and rebrand, but keep the secret sauce under the hood that makes it awesome?
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#64I really liked OKC when I was using it and think it's one of the best dating sites, but I have something of an anti-OKCupid story: I met my current SO in person, at a party. It turns out that we have opposing political and religious views (we're both fairly moderate, so we're not polar opposites, but we do categorize ourselves as Dem/Rep, Atheist/Christian). Personally, I'm a little surprised that things have worked…
I always searched for "atheist only" in my online searches. Then a Muslim girl wrote me and told me I had good bone structure. 3 years later, we're engaged. (She's also very moderate in her beliefs.)
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#65When I was in SFBA, I met several (7?) girls from OkCupid. They were all seriously insane, in different and interesting ways, except for one, who was actually a pretty awesome engineer and decent human being (and who turned out to be friends with a lot of my other SFBA friends already). Guess which one I didn't actually date due to leaving the country a few weeks later :(
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#66I tried it, and it generally just depressed me that all my compatible matches were over 100 miles away. Guess I should get out of South Dakota if I ever want this service to do any good for me. It would probably be good for my sanity and career if I did.
Wow, another hn'er from SD (grew up in Rapid City).
I had bad luck with OK Cupid in that area myself (Mitchell 2004-2008). I couldn't find any compatible matches within the 100 mile radius either. I finally just gave up.
Haven't tried in the new area (Colorado Springs).
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#67I met my fiance on craigslist, but there doesn't seem to be an option for non-pay sites.
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#68Earlier quoted context omitted.
> you are just one of the hundreds who've messaged her. Actually, I found it to be completely the opposite. Most of the guys messaging the girls either (sorted by frequency): 1) Send a picture of their privates 2) Send something incoherent e.g., "GURL UR SO HOT" 3) Send a long, creepy essay 4) Have zero compatibility with her, haven't read her profile (past the picture), etc... and are sending something generic. So i…
"So if you actually read their profile and send intelligent messages selectively, you'll get responses." In a dream world. I've done that on OKC and have gotten zero responses.
Have you considered that it's your problem, not the site's? Worked very well for me.
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#69Maybe there should be an option for "Was in a long term relationship with someone from OKC". My last relationship was with someone that I met on OKC. I think it's definitely the best free dating site out there. I tried some other dating sites with minimal success over the past 4 years.
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#70I really liked OKC when I was using it and think it's one of the best dating sites, but I have something of an anti-OKCupid story: I met my current SO in person, at a party. It turns out that we have opposing political and religious views (we're both fairly moderate, so we're not polar opposites, but we do categorize ourselves as Dem/Rep, Atheist/Christian). Personally, I'm a little surprised that things have worked…
> I'm not sure what moral one should take away from that, other than that your mental checklist of dating requirements may be less relevant than you imagined.
The take-away is that there is no "special someone". Just a fairly large pool of "soulmates" with suitable chemistries. The less discriminating you are about the more superficial stuff (biologically speaking), the better your chances.