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In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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ddorian43 wrote: post #55
saiya-jin wrote: post #48

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Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to t…

I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.

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Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by person_of_color »

throwaway_nnn wrote: post #59
saiya-jin wrote: post #48

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Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to t…

I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers. Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men…

What's your age range?

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by throwaway_nnn »

person_of_color wrote: post #62
throwaway_nnn wrote: post #59

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I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers. Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men…

What's your age range?

18-24. It would be quite hard for me to meet girls this age on Tinder but it's not hard for me to meet 25+ year-olds on it.

@person_of_color Edit because I hit the posting limits: I've done it with breaks for real relationships in mid-to-late 30s.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by nordsieck »

noobermin wrote: post #28
riffraff wrote: post #23

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I am unsure I understand your last remark. This seems more a result of the rise of a new medium than the rise of inequality, i.e. sex-for-money and pleasant-partner-to-keep-around-for-money have been around for millennia.

It is arguable that this was how marriage functioned in the past in the west, especially when men courted women from their parents.

> It is arguable that this was how marriage functioned in the past in the west

Really? Both Dowry and Bride Price were not uncommon practices.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by scotty79 »

jacobush wrote: post #38
scotty79 wrote: post #33

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> ... should the balance ever shift too far out of their favor, they will presumably end the relationship. This pretty much describes all relationships except those where one falls horribly ill or the ones where one sticks around despite abuse. > They just do the nice thing, knowing that in the past the other has done the same for them. Only if there comes to be a very long period of non-reciprocation will the other…

But on a scale, typically closer to sex work and much farther from friendship, right?

Right. That's what unsettling people. That and the fact that boundries are fuzzy and fluid.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by person_of_color »

throwaway_nnn wrote: post #63
person_of_color wrote: post #62

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What's your age range?

18-24. It would be quite hard for me to meet girls this age on Tinder but it's not hard for me to meet 25+ year-olds on it. @person_of_color Edit because I hit the posting limits: I've done it with breaks for real relationships in mid-to-late 30s.

I mean your age range - unless you are 18-24?

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by kimikelku »

tw1010 wrote: post #47
malmsteen wrote: post #39

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Theres a whole subreddit about it and a few SVs guys talk openly (but anonymously) about it there.

Don't leave us hanging like that. Please link to the subreddit.

I think it might be this one /r/sugarlifestyleforum

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by Broken_Hippo »

DoreenMichele wrote: post #53
ssijak wrote: post #52

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And then Facebook starts offering your “daddy” account to your family in the “people you may know category” because it sees that you hang out with them in the same location

You can't have multiple Facebook accounts. That's an offense that gets you banned if they figure it out.

Actually... Many, many people do.

Most often, when they suspect you have more than one, they'll close the multiples after requiring you to verify your identity on one (or more) of them.

Source: I only have one, but I run in occult circles. Many folks keep their occult stuff seperate from their main friends, family, and work account, with some overlap. Sometimes folks will go through and turn them in, and most folks turn around and make yet another new one.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by [deleted] »

Broken_Hippo wrote: post #68
DoreenMichele wrote: post #53

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You can't have multiple Facebook accounts. That's an offense that gets you banned if they figure it out.

Actually... Many, many people do. Most often, when they suspect you have more than one, they'll close the multiples after requiring you to verify your identity on one (or more) of them. Source: I only have one, but I run in occult circles. Many folks keep their occult stuff seperate from their main friends, family, and work account, with some overlap. Sometimes folks will go through and turn them in, and most folks t…

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Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Post by Cthulhu_ »

DoreenMichele wrote: post #53
ssijak wrote: post #52

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And then Facebook starts offering your “daddy” account to your family in the “people you may know category” because it sees that you hang out with them in the same location

You can't have multiple Facebook accounts. That's an offense that gets you banned if they figure it out.

> if they figure it out.

key word there. I hope FB doesn't crack down on it, people are (IMO) entitled to multiple online identities and false identities. I'd like to keep work and private separate; I have a friend who uses a false name to try and avoid her stalker, etc.

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