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In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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I'd like to hear of any HNers who are involved in this lifestyle. Given SV pay, it must be not unheard of.

Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.

What's your total compensation?

How much do you spend monthly on your sugar partner?

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

#52

FWIW, this is rampant in many parts of Asia, too, with a similar discrepancy between traditional culture (Confucianism in China, Catholicism in the Philippines, Buddhism in Thailand, Islam in Indonesia, ...) and today's realities. Several young women maintain several distinct social media identities: one for family, one for friends, one for "daddies".

And then Facebook starts offering your “daddy” account to your family in the “people you may know category” because it sees that you hang out with them in the same location

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

#53
post #52

FWIW, this is rampant in many parts of Asia, too, with a similar discrepancy between traditional culture (Confucianism in China, Catholicism in the Philippines, Buddhism in Thailand, Islam in Indonesia, ...) and today's realities. Several young women maintain several distinct social media identities: one for family, one for friends, one for "daddies".

And then Facebook starts offering your “daddy” account to your family in the “people you may know category” because it sees that you hang out with them in the same location

You can't have multiple Facebook accounts. That's an offense that gets you banned if they figure it out.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

#54

I am an outsider to some extent but it's interesting observing a repeat of the so-called "feminist sex wars" here in Africa. One argument is that if the society was more equal economically across gendered lines, then there would be no need for this kind of sex work. This is often used as an argument against sex work in the west as well, but I'm guessing the level of wealth inequality, and not just across gendered lin…

Don't you think with economic equality, 80% of females will go to top 10% of males (for free) ? While now at least they pay.

Dude be quiet you’re gonna wake the Normies up to knowledge that really won’t be useful to them and will only make them angry

Of course you’re correct but SSSHHH bro!!

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

#55

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Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.

Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to t…

I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Aside: I'd rather have a classic article with images and videos instead of that constant over- and underscrolling, images appearing and disappearing etc. I think the innovation is a bit compulsive.

I wonder how people come up with these insanity. It does not add any value to the article and is so infuriating. Apart from that, I found the article good.

Someone come up with a „brilliant” idea, someone else who doesn’t care implements it. That’s how usually short-lived, standard-breaking solutions are created. I’m seeing more and more often on many websites an ad in this „creatively revealing” image.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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post #52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

And then Facebook starts offering your “daddy” account to your family in the “people you may know category” because it sees that you hang out with them in the same location

You can't have multiple Facebook accounts. That's an offense that gets you banned if they figure it out.

oh you totally can. They just don't want everyone doing it. I have at least three.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.

Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to t…

I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers.

Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men have fetishes they want to fulfill or they want to cheat. I'm actually doing well enough on Tinder to meet a new, above average girl every day in a big city. But I'm not in the social circles that would allow me to meet top current models or ballet dancers... But this makes it possible.

It's just my impression that could be wrong but I'm 90%+ sure that none of the girls I was seeing had other "clients." I'm picky and I avoid girls who seem like "party girls" and have no job or don't go to school. Also, only one of them had a previous arrangement and all of them wanted to have chemistry first. They describe most of the other men they met as weird and unattractive.

So I agree with you that you can't trust 80%+ of them if you care about not being just another client.

Re: In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more common and more visible

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.

What's your total compensation? How much do you spend monthly on your sugar partner?

$3k-7k per month. There was one exception at $10k/month but that involved threesomes.
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