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I'm 30. I've never held down a full-time job. I've been in 4 software companies over the years and I've only lasted a few months at each one. I've also tried contact programming so I have a similar string of failures.
I've been to doctors, career advisors and so on but I don't really have any answers.
I have a very wide area of interests, and doing things takes time. But while I'm doing thing 'A', I think about the fact that I'm making no progress on 'B', 'C', ... 'n' and it distracts me both from thinking as deeply as I need to on thing 'A' and the enjoyment I get from getting something done. So I struggle with letting go of the desire to get everything done that I can imagine would be fun and interesting to do.
Apparently that's a no-no: ... Flint replied, "Well the top 5 are my primary focus, but the other 20 come in at a close second. They are still important so I'll work on those intermittently as I see fit as I'm getting through my top 5. They aren't as urgent, but I still plan to give them a dedicated effort." To which Buffett replied: "No. You've got it wrong, Mike. Everything you didn't circle just became your 'avoid…
Depression. I have a lot of social anxiety and I feel really isolated, my best friend passed two years ago which didn't make anything better. Isolation makes depression into a feedback loop, and it feels like you keep sinking deeper and deeper.
I've been struggling with adulthood ever since turning 30 and starting a family. I have this image in my head of what life after 30 looks like from seeing my parents and all their friends doing basically the same thing as each other. It's not a life I want for myself, but every decision I make pushes me further and further in that direction. My mind has been programmed to think and act in a way that eventually lands…
mann.. completely relate to this. my understanding is that trying to buck the trend will still keep my attention on the trend I'm trying to buck. As when riding a motorcycle, keep your attention on the place you're trying to move to rather than the one you're trying to avoid. so instead my focus should be on things that truly move me. good luck on this journey, I definitely feel ya. edit: for me, making the world bet…
> so instead my focus should be on things that truly move me.
This is so very true. You'll do much better off doing a (useful) thing that you care about than trying to force yourself to do a lucrative thing that you don't care about.
german language. And I'm living in Berlin.
I struggle with the question whether to have children or not. I'm surrounded by new fathers who struggle with their children, whose wives have turned from attractive women into unattractive moms. I read witty comments all the time suggesting how much of a burden kids are. This struggle burns me out.
1. Work my job
2. Get a better job (leetcode.com)
3. Build my own app
Besides #1 where I don't have much of a choice, I struggle to make progress towards both #2 and #3 sometimes. I feel like maybe I should just focus on one or the other at a time e.g. I'm not even 1 year into my new job, so perhaps I don't already be practicing for another, and should just concentrate on my app after work.
I don't like the new way of doing things. Kubernetes, node, react, terraform... Everything is more complicated and also more fragile. I feel like the software world is collectively mad and I'm sitting on the outside asking "wtf is going on?" Or maybe I'm the crazy one.
To your list, I would add Docker. I fucking hate that all-pervading obfuscator.