I believe (vanilla) software development is a young man's/woman's game. I realized this last year at age 38 and I've been rapidly trying to alter my career trajectory. - If you aren't a specialist, you are constantly competing against 20-somethings who will always be more current in their skills and breadth than yourself, because they have more free time than you have (e.g. I have a wife, kid) - I've written GUI widg…
Ask HN: Is software engineering really a dead-end job after 35-40?
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#22I believe (vanilla) software development is a young man's/woman's game. I realized this last year at age 38 and I've been rapidly trying to alter my career trajectory. - If you aren't a specialist, you are constantly competing against 20-somethings who will always be more current in their skills and breadth than yourself, because they have more free time than you have (e.g. I have a wife, kid) - I've written GUI widg…
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#23If anything I know more now about solving problems and handling stress. Likewise, everyone I work with who is older than me I have crazy respect for ageism is so silly
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#24Fellows, grey bias, impostor syndrome, burnout, toxicity, anxiety and the others are all symptoms of the rigid mindstate that permeates our industry. It has to do with the curse of comfort and a lack of emotional agility which is exceptionally pronounced in this industry for many reasons which I shall not accentuate here except to state that `casual` is another word for `toxic` in my view. I would care to suggest to…
Non-shortened link: https://smile.amazon.com/Emotional-Agility-Unstuck-Embrace-C...
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#25I believe (vanilla) software development is a young man's/woman's game. I realized this last year at age 38 and I've been rapidly trying to alter my career trajectory. - If you aren't a specialist, you are constantly competing against 20-somethings who will always be more current in their skills and breadth than yourself, because they have more free time than you have (e.g. I have a wife, kid) - I've written GUI widg…
There is definitely a middle ground, I believe emotional agility is at the heart of 'true' agility and the emotions have been highly overlooked by people who either master the art of bottling it up (looking at you former managers) or brooding (that's on me and many of us I believe)
The middle ground is becoming aware of the spectrum of unpleasant emotions and learning to feel in more depth while using intellect to guide your own actions.
For example, one can sense disgust at a certain codebase. That's perfectly acceptable, and it doesn't have to be anyone's fault. The disgust will drive us to want to improve it. Unfortunately, our managers tell us `bottle up your disgust and do some more disgusting things so we can ship` in which case young guys jump to the challenge and old guys tend to feel completely undervalued.
Edit: this statement is intentionally opinionated. It's alright to have an emotional reaction to it. I'd be interested to know what emotions it evokes in the reader.
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#26Is there discrimination at the average company against 35+ candidates? Yes. Is it because the candidates don’t know the latest languages and frameworks? Sometimes, not always. Is it because “fresh grads” have “energy” or something? Almost certainly not. What does that even mean? Is it negated by the comments here like “oh there are 70-year-olds doing programmig where I work!”? No, that’s just an anecdote, not statist…
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#27As I get older I plan to shift to a different role. Maybe management, I am waiting for a position to open in a city for a dev project manager. I'm not really concerned.
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#28Earlier quoted context omitted.
Non-shortened link: https://smile.amazon.com/Emotional-Agility-Unstuck-Embrace-C...
Very kind of you to provide this link; highly interested to know your take on this work.
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#29As programmers, we should take the control of the recruitment with coopting. The market is in our favor. We are more needed than we need. We can do that smoothly and the good business men will understand they can save a lot of money with a such system.
I already know few good programmers who are available and I can recommend.
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#30It's not so much their age, but rather they have a tendency to be set in their ways, are less eager to learn and explore and change.
On a personal level, I'm impressed you've stuck with Perl all these years, and I'd love to nerd out with you over a beer later. On a professional level, I'm wondering if you're an inflexible curmudgeon.
Also as an older person, you're going to be expected to have some good basic management skills and wisdom. It's just the course of human nature.
Another couple of anti-bias tactics:
1. Dress nicely and modern. I see a lot of candidates who wear a suit that looks like its been slept in, or it looks like a suit they bought in the 80s. I'm not telling you to wear skinny jeans and Supreme shirts, but just dress relatively clean and modern.
You can get away with a lot on this front as a youngster, but it really works against you once you become one of us grays.
2. Stay fit/eat right. It doesn't do you any well if you're old, and overweight, and breathing hard during the interview.