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Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by magduf »

alexashka wrote: post #66
laurieg wrote: post #2

It is very informative to make a an online dating profile of the opposite gender. I'm a man, but when I made an account on tinder with a female friend's pictures I was blown away by just how radically different the experience was. Almost every person would match with me. Everyone would message me straight away. If I didn't reply most would message again in a few hours. A few would get very angry/upset that I didn't r…

Real stroke of genius would be making prostitution legal, and family a big deal. It'd solve men's natural urges, and women's constant insecurity that they're going to be abandoned, once they get wrinkles. It'd remove so much undisclosed resentment and tension within families and society. It'd free up people involved in billions upon billions of dollars worth of industry, to do something useful, instead of preying on…

No, what we really need is common acceptance of polyamory, and people getting together in 3-6 adult households. It'd make affording housing a lot easier, it'd solve a lot of loneliness problems, everyone would get more sex, and people could finally get past this idea that their partner needed to satisfy all their check-boxes.

Interestingly, if you look at the polyamory community, you find that men are much more accepting of this lifestyle than women, even though women stand to benefit from it more.

The landlords wouldn't like it, though.

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bartread wrote: post #152
pc86 wrote: post #149

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The world mourns.

Hmm. I'm not sure why my comment above is getting downvotes. It seems like a perfectly rational response to the very interesting insider revelation posted by the parent. To be honest I'd suspected this for a while based on conversations with female friends, and had therefore considered shutting down the relevant accounts. Now I've had it confirmed, it's simply provided the push I needed: why continue to do something…

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Post by magduf »

ddorian43 wrote: post #184
magduf wrote: post #161

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Yeah, but what about the flip side? Not all women are desirable to men: fat, unattractive, already have kids, etc. There's a lot of women who just never get a date, because their photos aren't very attractive and men want pretty women (I'm a man and I'll admit this readily: if a woman is a little overweight that's an automatic disqualifier for me).

Are you overweight yourself at all ?

No, not at all. My last girlfriend was largely attracted to me because I'm thin, and she's a fitness nazi and hates fatness.

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Post by graeme »

kevin_thibedeau wrote: post #42
throwaway_234 wrote: post #9

I guess unless your good looking to hot as a guy Tinder is crickets as girls filter you out. I'm bi so i use all apps .. i sure as hell wish Tinder was like Grindr and Scruff are for me. Open either app and have tons of messages .. pick and choose who you want to chat with and boom you have a collection of potential guys to meet up with for fun when the mood hits you. I guess that's what its like for average to good…

> Guess it's the Same for good looking to hot str8 guys. Unless you don't meet the minimum height requirement. That's more important than looks.

Eh. I'm 5'6". Tinder worked quite well for me. (I look good, to be clear)

I'm sure it would have worked even better if I were 6' and looked the same. But looks on their own do very well.

This was even true on okcupid, where you had to list height. I also got a lot of attention, and routinely got that "congrats, you're attractive" notification the site would send.

(If any short man is reading this, my advice would be: Get lean, and get muscles. This matters far more for you than for taller men, who can coast.)

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Post by Retric »

hackits wrote: post #51
6cd6beb wrote: post #26

I figured something like this would exist, but I don't think it's very useful. I've walked the dark path of trying to implement "pickup artist" material(can't imagine that'll be received well), and I can say that: A) an objective approach works (if you're humble and willing to recognize/adjust for failure) B) there's a torrent of snake oil out there C) you learn a lot when you try this stuff. A lot. A lot of that mat…

Here is my two cents. A) Is superior in every way. Now let me fill in the gaps a little bit and maybe some-one else will find this information useful. First step is to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself `do` you find yourself physically attractive? Do you have good posture, Do you have a low 10%-16% body fat percentage? Are you dressed to impress or just dress just it over with? If you answered no, then 100…

The biggest player I know is/was short and overweight. He however was always looking, fairly charming, and had reasonable expectations.

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Post by a_f »

AnIdiotOnTheNet wrote: post #171
chillacy wrote: post #81

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That's historically the case: https://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/sep/24/women-men-dn... The other implication of polygamy is that a lot of men simply didn't have a chance to pass on their genes at all.

I sometimes wonder if a big reason why monogamous marriage exists as a concept in human society is as a strategy for mitigating violent upheaval. By using cultural pressure to force single-partner relationships (at least on the surface), you no longer had a large group of sexually frustrated men with nothing to lose looking around and wondering how to get a piece of what the elite have that they don't.

I personally belive this to be the case.

I cam across an interesting article here on HN posted about the link between polygamy and upheaval in the Economist https://www.economist.com/news/christmas-specials/21732695-p... .

Whilst its not evidence, it certainly makes the case.

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Post by aphextron »

AnIdiotOnTheNet wrote: post #171
chillacy wrote: post #81

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That's historically the case: https://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/sep/24/women-men-dn... The other implication of polygamy is that a lot of men simply didn't have a chance to pass on their genes at all.

I sometimes wonder if a big reason why monogamous marriage exists as a concept in human society is as a strategy for mitigating violent upheaval. By using cultural pressure to force single-partner relationships (at least on the surface), you no longer had a large group of sexually frustrated men with nothing to lose looking around and wondering how to get a piece of what the elite have that they don't.

A lot of what we think of as “marriage” comes from the entirety of human history where women were bought and sold as bargaining chips in their male family member’s lives. They were used to ensure inheritance, line of succession, and to cement business relationships. Not until just the past couple centuries in western society has there even been a concept of marrying for romantic love.

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Post by graeme »

badpun wrote: post #114
skookumchuck wrote: post #91

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Sounds like you should dress and pose like a model.

Yes, because models are attractive because of their clothes and the poses they take.

If your photos become more modelly this would work much better than you'd think.
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