Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is it that hot in your area that you have to run air conditioner for 3-4 hours after sunset? Typically solar output correlates really nicely with the need for air conditioning. Washing and drying could be done say on a weekend ( during daylight hours ). Many water heaters come with an integrated storage tank for hot water so they can actually be used as a form of energy storage. That leaves lights in your example and…
It's not uncommon for outside temperatures in Texas to stay above 80F (27C) until midnight during the summer months. The modern homes there are designed to stay sealed, rather than open windows for ventilation at night. Running AC every ~45 minutes until morning is considered the norm.
But if you absolutely must use active cooling after sunset you might want to get something like Ice bear 20 ( https://www.ice-energy.com/technology/ - i'm not affiliated with them just an example) hopefully it should solve it once and for all.