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Some terrible personal news

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Re: Some terrible personal news

#41

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>I’m unmanned and unmoored without her I found that quite cutting. I'm not sure I could go on if my wife died prematurely. My mind has turned to this on occassions when people close to me have suffered severe illness or died, and I just can't see in my minds eye how I could cope.

May I ask absolutely sincerely: how differently do you feel about the scenario of your wife suddenly leaving you?

Dude.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

May I ask absolutely sincerely: how differently do you feel about the scenario of your wife suddenly leaving you?

Dude.

This thread is about loss. What I referred to can be an extremely acute form of loss. There may be people in this thread struggling to deal with the form of loss I referred to.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>I’m unmanned and unmoored without her I found that quite cutting. I'm not sure I could go on if my wife died prematurely. My mind has turned to this on occassions when people close to me have suffered severe illness or died, and I just can't see in my minds eye how I could cope.

May I ask absolutely sincerely: how differently do you feel about the scenario of your wife suddenly leaving you?

No need for a hypothetical scenario in my case. It sucks, greatly, but I imagine pales in comparison to having a loving wife suddenly die.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#45
I wrote to Matt once asking a technical question about Google and to be honest I wasn't expecting an answer. But a couple of days later he took the time to answer. Such a great guy. Hope him the best.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#46
I got married last year. Before I met my wife, I wasn't sure what I was doing with my life. For a time, I was fairly depressed about lots of mistakes I had made. I wasn't sure I had anyone who could understand me or help me. My brother introduced me to my wife and we hit it off. My wife gave me emotional stability and motivation to do things. The few times we've had fights, I cry when I hurt her. She is everything to me. If I lost her, I might be even worse off than before I met her. Maybe I'd be able to remember everything she says and move forward with strength in my eyes. Maybe.

I feel for Matt and anyone else who has to endure a loss.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#47
I was having a lousy day, and so was my wife. I realized i was focused on some stupid work problem and not her. I dropped what I was doing and we just spent a few hours of quality time just talking and connecting and encouraging each other. It was the best decision I've made all day. After reading this I realize how much better a decision it was to spend time with my loved one.

I'm really sorry to hear this news.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#48

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>I’m unmanned and unmoored without her I found that quite cutting. I'm not sure I could go on if my wife died prematurely. My mind has turned to this on occassions when people close to me have suffered severe illness or died, and I just can't see in my minds eye how I could cope.

May I ask absolutely sincerely: how differently do you feel about the scenario of your wife suddenly leaving you?

When you have a divorce, separation, etc - the person is still there, still alive, around, may or may not communicate with you, etc. You can know that they're OK, even if they had to find happiness with someone else or whatever happened.

I was working late to make up some time and had headphones on. Wife told me "I'm gonna go soak in the tub and go to bed, see you in a bit." A couple hours later I finished what I was doing and headed towards the bedroom. I noticed the bathroom light was still on, and found her. Apparent heart attack and she drowned in the bathtub, and she'd been gone a while by the time I found her. Sudden wrenching loss. No opportunity to make up for fights. No goodbye. Just.. gone.

Anyway. This isn't about me. This is about the community helping Matt, in whatever way we can.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#49
That sucks, I'm sorry Matt, don't know you so it means little but I'm sorry.

It really sucks that you had no warning, no time to spend in the last days. Knowing that it is coming sucks but being taken like that sucks (I've lost family to cancer, that is both better and more sucky).

It's clear that you loved her and that just makes it worse. Shit.

I keep thinking of stuff to say but it's all about me and my wife, don't want it to be about us. So I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you have family to support you, and I hope things get better for you.

Re: Some terrible personal news

#50
I’m so sorry Matt. My heart goes out to you and yours in this time of grief and reflection. What a wonderful blog post about her, her love of life was so evident in your thoughtful words.
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