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> Claiming that men and women just have different criteria, and thus the problem should be ignored entirely completely misses the point. OP did not draw that conclusion.
OP's scenario: 1. There are a minority of women in tech. 2. Trying to correct (1) will do more harm than good. aspaceman's scenario: 1. There are a minority of women in tech, because on the whole, more men like tech jobs than women. NOT that NO women would do tech jobs, but in the "absence of discrimination", maybe gender ratios would be 60-40 men or something. 2. Because women are in the minority, male co-workers ta…
"the root of this problem is men not taking women seriously"
is what I find to be the most important takeaway. As a person in STEM, you need to take women seriously when they talk about this stuff. Ask yourself why you're so quick to dismiss the "minority of women" and "activists'" experiences.